well my marriage has been on the rocks for a couple of years now and only gettin worse we are currently separated and bout a weej ago an old girlfriend happened to look me up on facebook also single now I dated her for bout 10 yrs startin in high school we had problems but were also young and I left her now me and her are talkin and all my old feelings are back 4 her .She is hinting at us gettin back but Im not sure if we should she always made me very happy.Im not gonna have an affair it would be all or nothing but not sure which way 2 go yall have some insihgt on this thx

past relationships are easy because we tend to gravitate toward the familiar. you are right in wanting to completely end your marriage before moving on. there is nothing wrong with talking and meeting your ex while the divorce is being finalized. have fun getting to know your ex again, but take it slow. try not to focus your attention on your ex so that you don't end up jumping from one bad relationship into another. good luck bro

If you do decide to pursue the relationship...take it slow..there is no need to rush into anything. Good luck to you!

They say the 1st relationship that you get into after a divorce or separated doesn't last. That's true - it's all about the possible need of getting even with the ex or to prove a point to them & yourself.

I agree with Startin_anew, take your time & go slow. You don't really know what could happen & things can change quickly for the 2 of you.

Good luck though.

First of all....seperated IS NOT single....you need to take care of that situation first! Secondly....our past always comes back to us sweetly...we remember the good and none of the bad and tend to forget why they aren't in our lives any longer. Personally, I would take care of the marriage, see if it is going to work...and if not...get out and give relief to both of you. I would also take a step back from the other ex and think it through before making any moves....and she needs to give you that time. Good luck

Deal with the relationship you're in currently before trying to move onto another one.

I did plan on ending my marriage b4 tryin 2 pursue other avenues but not sure if my past might b a good pusuit we were both young and have matured alot over the past 11yrs for now we are only talkin but she is deffinatly sparkin an oild flkame that never died ive always kept her in my heart but noone ever knew that not even her which might just be because she was my first serious relationship

Get a divorce first.

I did plan on ending my marriage b4 tryin 2 pursue other avenues but not sure if my past might b a good pusuit we were both young and have matured alot over the past 11yrs for now we are only talkin but she is deffinatly sparkin an oild flkame that never died ive always kept her in my heart but noone ever knew that not even her which might just be because she was my first serious relationship