Topic: No Reply -vs- Reply
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Tue 03/22/11 06:01 PM
I just make voodoo dolls of the ones who don't respond to my emails. Muwhahahahahahahahahaha! pitchfork laugh laugh

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Tue 03/22/11 06:02 PM



If you are at a dance and a man winks at you but you are not interested do you walk over and say, "thank but I'm not interesed"? No, you turn to your friends and ignore him. Same rules should apply here: no answer is an answer. Especially since some people get upset.


no i would smile and chat, even if i wasnt interested, I couldnt be rudenoway


That could send mixed signals though.


yep apparently it does, but i have an engagement ring and always say i am taken, but am still nice. Not sure how people still mix that up.

We grew up where everyone knew everyone and no way would you not smile at anyone who was there.

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Tue 03/22/11 06:40 PM

I like to reply to everyone, except the totally stu[pid ones asking me for sex or naked photos. those I block.


I can;tdrool believe those morons actually think we HAVE naked photos

Oh yes, I keep naked photos handy at all timeswhoa right. why would I even have them much less send them to some butt head who prolly has no photo and a one line profile - or to anyone for that matter:laughing:

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Tue 03/22/11 06:54 PM



If you are at a dance and a man winks at you but you are not interested do you walk over and say, "thank but I'm not interesed"? No, you turn to your friends and ignore him. Same rules should apply here: no answer is an answer. Especially since some people get upset.


no i would smile and chat, even if i wasnt interested, I couldnt be rudenoway


That could send mixed signals though.


Not if you tell them you're only interested in chatting/being friends.

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Tue 03/22/11 07:08 PM
I think that if a guy takes the nerve to send a woman a message showing interest in them, then it deserves a response showing a lack of interest if the case may be.

If the guy then responds back all butt hurt and angry, you can then proceed to ignore his douchebaggish ways and move on.

I know from my own experience I have to actually build up some nerve to actually initiate contact. I however, can take a no, I just would like to know instead of wondering... And hell, my mind wanders...

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Tue 03/22/11 07:38 PM

I think that if a guy takes the nerve to send a woman a message showing interest in them, then it deserves a response showing a lack of interest if the case may be.

If the guy then responds back all butt hurt and angry, you can then proceed to ignore his douchebaggish ways and move on.

I know from my own experience I have to actually build up some nerve to actually initiate contact. I however, can take a no, I just would like to know instead of wondering... And hell, my mind wanders...


what's there to know?

no answer IS an answer

I know someone already said that but it bears repeating - besides - let it go man - it's tough not to be in control, but when I see men getting all whiny about not getting replies it seems a little control freaky creepy

I answer almost everyone tho
if someone doesn;t get an answer from me they're prolly scammers or pervslaugh

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Tue 03/22/11 07:55 PM

I usually reply. Sometimes they get angry and insulting. Those kind of guys usually show what they're like pretty quickly.


That's why I stopped replying, most of the time.

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Tue 03/22/11 07:57 PM




If you are at a dance and a man winks at you but you are not interested do you walk over and say, "thank but I'm not interesed"? No, you turn to your friends and ignore him. Same rules should apply here: no answer is an answer. Especially since some people get upset.


no i would smile and chat, even if i wasnt interested, I couldnt be rudenoway


That could send mixed signals though.


Not if you tell them you're only interested in chatting/being friends.


I said this to a man once and he had this huge rant on my having no business being here if I'm not going to date a guy who sends me an email.

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Tue 03/22/11 08:05 PM
To each their own... Some guys just can't take rejection... Hell, I've had enough practice, if it was a professional sport I'd be an all-star...

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Tue 03/22/11 08:37 PM





If you are at a dance and a man winks at you but you are not interested do you walk over and say, "thank but I'm not interesed"? No, you turn to your friends and ignore him. Same rules should apply here: no answer is an answer. Especially since some people get upset.


no i would smile and chat, even if i wasnt interested, I couldnt be rudenoway


That could send mixed signals though.


Not if you tell them you're only interested in chatting/being friends.


I said this to a man once and he had this huge rant on my having no business being here if I'm not going to date a guy who sends me an email.

boys & girls can we say "control freak"

some guys are such control freaks they can't even let go of in it cyberspace

cntrol freakism IS THE biggest turn off ever

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Tue 03/22/11 09:11 PM

boys & girls can we say "control freak"

some guys are such control freaks they can't even let go of in it cyberspace

cntrol freakism IS THE biggest turn off ever



Yep! Turn off is an understatement where guys like this are concerned. He was very sweet and charming in his initial email, and I thought it would be the polite way to do to reply and honestly tell him how it is. I was surprised he went psycho berserk on me. lol. It is a creepy thought how some can guise themselves.


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Tue 03/22/11 09:18 PM


boys & girls can we say "control freak"

some guys are such control freaks they can't even let go of in it cyberspace

cntrol freakism IS THE biggest turn off ever



Yep! Turn off is an understatement where guys like this are concerned. He was very sweet and charming in his initial email, and I thought it would be the polite way to do to reply and honestly tell him how it is. I was surprised he went psycho berserk on me. lol. It is a creepy thought how some can guise themselves.




it's unfortunate, but it sounds like he felt his nice message "entitled" him to something.....just like some real creepy guys feel "entitled" if they pay for a date...yuck


I mean it's one thing to express displeasure - it's another to try to intimidate someone - that 's just wrong on so many levels and kinda pointless

I guess I'm lucky I haven't really had that problem on here - the guys I've told that I'm not interested have been pretty polite, but I have had that happen on other sites so I know what ur talking about

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Tue 03/22/11 09:27 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Tue 03/22/11 09:28 PM
There are ways to tell them you are not interested without hurting their feelings I think.

Chances are they wrote to 30 women and don't even keep track of any of the ones that don't respond so not responding might be better.

Personally I have sent messages to quite a few men on another site to see what response I got back and nobody responded. I would personally like to hear something rather than nothing.

But men have a harder time saying no or rejecting a woman than women have rejecting men. The reason for that is that women just have more practice.

And men just don't know how to do it very well...





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Tue 03/22/11 09:36 PM



I said this to a man once and he had this huge rant on my having no business being here if I'm not going to date a guy who sends me an email.



Oh I guess he thought that you are required to or should date every single man who wants to date you? What an idiot.


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Tue 03/22/11 09:38 PM

There are ways to tell them you are not interested without hurting their feelings I think.

Chances are they wrote to 30 women and don't even keep track of any of the ones that don't respond so not responding might be better.

Personally I have sent messages to quite a few men on another site to see what response I got back and nobody responded. I would personally like to hear something rather than nothing.

But men have a harder time saying no or rejecting a woman than women have rejecting men. The reason for that is that women just have more practice.

And men just don't know how to do it very well...








so you can try not to hurt their feelings but it doesn't mean that it won't -

but male/female alike - there is no entitlement to a response

I don;t know that I have ever really rejected anyone on this site...I also don't always reply but usually I do

and I've prolly hurt someone's feelings somewehre cuz Ima klutzfrown it's hard on here cuz u can't hear tone of voice & see facial expression

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Tue 03/22/11 10:11 PM

it's unfortunate, but it sounds like he felt his nice message "entitled" him to something.....just like some real creepy guys feel "entitled" if they pay for a date...yuck

I mean it's one thing to express displeasure - it's another to try to intimidate someone - that 's just wrong on so many levels and kinda pointless



Oh I guess he thought that you are required to or should date every single man who wants to date you? What an idiot.


My sentiments exactly. I guess some men think they are entitled once they make an effort to email you.

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Tue 03/22/11 10:16 PM


boys & girls can we say "control freak"
some guys are such control freaks they can't even let go of in it cyberspace
cntrol freakism IS THE biggest turn off ever

Yep! Turn off is an understatement where guys like this are concerned. He was very sweet and charming in his initial email, and I thought it would be the polite way to do to reply and honestly tell him how it is. I was surprised he went psycho berserk on me. lol. It is a creepy thought how some can guise themselves.


in his defense, he did spent a lot of money on the gorilla suit

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Tue 03/22/11 10:25 PM

in his defense, he did spent a lot of money on the gorilla suit


Ah, he wasn't the one who wore the gorilla suit. The guy in the gorilla suit is already smiling on the bed now, asleep. bigsmile

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Wed 03/23/11 06:13 AM





If you are at a dance and a man winks at you but you are not interested do you walk over and say, "thank but I'm not interesed"? No, you turn to your friends and ignore him. Same rules should apply here: no answer is an answer. Especially since some people get upset.


no i would smile and chat, even if i wasnt interested, I couldnt be rudenoway


That could send mixed signals though.


Not if you tell them you're only interested in chatting/being friends.


I said this to a man once and he had this huge rant on my having no business being here if I'm not going to date a guy who sends me an email.


lol. I don't get that at all. Then again, those are also the kind of guys who think any response means someone's interested in them.

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Wed 03/23/11 06:36 AM


I like to reply to everyone, except the totally stu[pid ones asking me for sex or naked photos. those I block.


I can;tdrool believe those morons actually think we HAVE naked photos

Oh yes, I keep naked photos handy at all timeswhoa right. why would I even have them much less send them to some butt head who prolly has no photo and a one line profile - or to anyone for that matter:laughing:


I know like they dont even have the decency to say Gday a couple of times..complete drongos