If i may ask,why must some parents choose whom to love and marry for their children? This question has always been in my mind unanswered,untill now that i have really figure it out.Based on my observation i found out some points why parents choose whom to love or marry for ther children, thus:'1' some parents choose whom to love for their children because of "CULTURAL BACKGROUNDS." Some most parents think that if their child marries a lady/guy with different cultural background than their's,he/she will end up forgetting his/her own culture or be converted to the second parties culture,and also most parents think that some cultures are demonic, only theirs is Godly.'2' "FINANCIAL BACKGROUND:" Most parents stop their child from loving a guy/lady because the lady/guy is from a poor background/family,that their daughter/son cannot marry a guy/lady from a poor family that they are better than,having a second thought that the lady/guy may be after their wealth,regarding him/her as a gold digger.'3' "COLOR,NATIONALITY,AGE."Color,nationality,or age make most parents to make a barrier between their childrens union.They say,why must my son/daughter be in love with a black/white lady/guy!? That will be over their dead body,they always think that their color is far better or having good qualities than their son/daughters love.Likewise "AGE."Most parents may say,my daughter/son cannot marry a lady/guy that is older/younger than him/her.Their resons may be that the lady/guy cannot bring up a child or is too old to consive and such sorts of comments.Nationality is another thing that make most parents to bring barrier between their childrens union.They say that over their dead body should white lady/guy marry their son/daugter (that's if they black farmily),likewise the whites and other ethnic groups.Their reasons are may be their son/daughter may follow the other and forget home,also they think that they are better than the other party." I will like to tell or advice those parents who use the above mentioned as an excuse to stop their children for loving each other that they should fist find out if anything like "true love" exist between their children.If yes! Then i beg of you to allow them to love each other because those words "true love" is all the protection your son or daughter will ever need,and i assure you that your son/daugter is well protected.Please stop using the above mentioned (financhal background,cultural,and color,nationality,and age) to stop true love.As long as there is true love, THEY ARE ALL WRONG!

in some cultures, the elders are trusted and respected enough to make such decisions for their children and the LONGEVITY of their security( a large part of happineess )


in other cultures, LOVE is the only fleeting standard and parents allow children to choose for themself, but by no means are required to agree with those choices

that's very long and one day i intend to read it

In the US its been decades since I've seen any "rules" parents set for their children actually dictate whom they choose to have a relationship.....However, I have seen people use those "pre requisites" as a way to get out of a relationship (potential or active) because they simply can't say, I just don't feel that way about you.