Well ive been seeing this guy for over a year now we met while hikeing in texas we now have a little girl together but hes not doing anything for work he quit looking for work and i cant seem to get rid of him. im no longer in love with him and he keeps telling me he will change but that only lasts a week or a couple of days but ide feel bad for makeing him leave because of our little girl but he doesnt have any rights to her in the state of michigan where we live and he isnt on her birthcertifericate so am i causeing more problems keeping him arround so he can be a part of his daughters life? or should i cut him loose he doesnt do anything anyway but plays on the ds or sits in front of the tv watching cartoons someone help.

hmmmm lol them kinds of guys are hard to get rid of, if
your showing any kind of kindness, or he see's
that your not truly pushing to get him out...he is gonna stay


I would say that he is still there cause you really
dont want his to leave. I seen plenty of woman in this
situation,they got rid of them.


you really want him gone get a restraining order about the only
way he is going.

i think your right im thinking thats what im going to have to do cuz ive told him i want him to leave more then once and somehow he keeps talking his way into staying arround and its driveing me nuts and i want him to go.

then thats on you your letting him stay, if your letting him talk
you into letting him stay,
your being to nice dont be.

it differs from state to state but this is the process here in California.

First you must do two things, one is to file and eviction on his azz and likewise file a restraining order on him that goes into effect the day he is evicted. What happens is that when he is to leave and he doesn't, you know that, "Ah baby, give me another chance," Bullshitte, you call the police, show them the restraining order, and BANG, cuffed, stuffed, and off to Pokey Oaks High School of Hard Knocks for Bad Boys!

Now check with this first in your state with a service officer who will meet you where you choose including at the local station to get information on how to legally proceed. Service officers work under the police but they handle paperwork and interfacing with people trying to deal with a problem that has not gotten to the point where 911 is called.

Now NORMALLY I would not advise to bearing false witness but the legal system and justice system are way fuqued up in this country so if you want him out like yesterday do this exactly as I tell you to do it. Go to your local PD station as in walk in the door with your child. Explain to them you want your EX gone from your house and that lately he has begun to threaten to kill you and your child if you try to do anything to make him leave. Mention he acts VERBALLY abusively towards you a lot and makes open hints towards physical violence. Also mention he has been acting very strange lately as in he is acting like if you would swear substance abuse but you are not sure what he is doing any more. Ask them about obtaining a restraining order against him as well. Above all else remember this phrase, "I fear for the life of me and my child!" He will be dragged from the house faster than you can say "Good Bye!" If he shows his face again 911 and "HELP HE IS BACK!" and "I have a restraining order against him!" The police come to take out the trash Part Deux! If you do as I say he will be inconvenienced for at last two days answering a lot of questions. Pretty much anything he says will be treated like Bullshitte since you have a job and he doesn't. If he had a job you would not be where you two are now!

Sounds to me like you got yourself a drug addicted "Good ole Boy," who thinks because you had a kid by him you have to support him too! Time to send the trash on his way!