Porn? It's the movies. It's all a product of some screenwriter's over-active imagination. Nothing against it, but it's a terrible thing to measure one's own life against.

Actually I think that sex has gotten better with age...can't agree that you can't get enough of it...it's just better and more fulfilling when you do..Not all the old hangups the young people have of having to prove themselves....when you're older, you're more relaxed and confident.
To the opening post...it sounds as if your wife had the problem, not you..but just because yor girlfriend wanted to have sex all the time is not a condition that she loved you...she might have been just trying to prove something to herself.

My thesis is that sex becomes no less important with age, but just different. This is an awfully public place to discuss this, because we can't talk about it without discussing ourselves.

you can tell us....we won't tell anyone!

you go first.

I already have...

well sex is important .....

yet its a private matter ....

OK. What you said . . . I guess.

Of course it is...no one wants details...just opinions

You, of all people are not at a loss of words...are you?
Don't want your innermost secrets, just your honest opinion.

yes i agree ...

you can't shed light on this without details. The most I can say is It's less about the athletic porno-movie stuff and more about intimacy and familiarity. It's more about finding ways to give pleasure and less about receiving pleasure.

But can porn be apart of a normal relationship ?

Absolutely! It's inspirational. It's a beautiful ideal. But, like I said, it's a terrible standard to measure your own life by. It isn't real.

There is no doubt that many couples experiment with the use of porn as an aid to perking up their sex lives, for example by sometimes watching an explicit DVD together. And sex education videos are often arousing as well as informative.

Also, a lot of women like erotic stories. Some females prefer to read alone to get themselves turned on. Others like their man to read to them in bed.

but we all see porn differently..

That is the magic of romance. Doesn't have to be real. It only has to move our hearts. I can be inspired and captured by a good story about a knight in shining armor, but I can't be one. That would be in the imagination of my lover (if I had one).

Knight in Shining Armour
Happily Ever After ....

Fairytale.

Its like living in a Glass House and can't throw Stones .

well it doesn't sound like it was your fault and most likely it wasn't

I think it's unfortunate, but sometimes people have had bad experiences - loved ones can help them over come them but we can't always succeed

they won't always get better and it's no one's fault - except maybe the one who hurt them in he first place

sex is a vital component to a relationship I really don't feel I could feel a true sense of intimacy with someone with out it - maybe it was just time for u two to go separate ways

yes, if normal is loving and supportive and not a risk to ones physical health,,lol


just WATCHING porn, is similar to watching any type of fiction, IMHO, its just a matter of entertainment preferences,,,


if its used as a compliment to whats already there, it shouldnt be a problem

if its used to REPLACE whats not there, thats a different story

Really good point. However, I believe for some men Porn is actually going to hurt their relationship. They will want the fantasy. And even if the actress was in their life, they still would not get the fantasy. Then they will take their girl for granted. There is only one way that relationship will go unless porn is ditched.

As far as my personal life, I have come to realize what is and is not important. I have accepted my faults and dealt with them. They are part of what makes me who I am today. I wouldn't be who I am if I didn't have my past and I really like who I am today.

Someone asked me recently if I had three wishes what would I wish for.

When I gave this serious consideration I realized there is nothing, absolutely nothing I would wish for. As I said, my past is part of who I am today. The standard wish is to go back to a time before you made your stupid choices with the knowledge and wisdom you have today. When I really thought about that, I realized there were some very important life decisions that I made that I would change if I went back to relive it. And not only bad choices I would want to undo, but some very positive opportunities I deliberately passed by. If I went back knowing what I know today, I would change all that. I would behave much differently than I did the first time around. This would change the way I am viewed by others which would in turn completely change my personal interactions. Even if I still remembered what I feel like today, I wouldn't be accepted as who I am now. I would be a different person to everyone around me. Don't know how that would change my life to the current day, but I know there are some points that I am very proud of that would no longer exist if I went back to relive it.

So, no wishing to change the past.

ok, what about right now? How about wishing for a billion dollars, or fame or respect or power or ...

You know what? Wishing for any of those and being granted that wish would be very hollow to me. I did nothing to earn what I would be given. Just a thought is all it takes to give me all I would want in my life. How boring would that be. No living and adventure to get there. Meet someone new they ask: "How did you get to where you are today?" What's the answer? I wished it and it came true? Or make up some fantastic tale where you know you are lying?

No wishes for me, thank you.

Curious, what do others think about wishes...