Hey everyone, It seems that women seem to shy away from people like myself I am a widowed dad of two young girls and I cant seem to find anyone who wants to get serious about a friendship.
I dont particularly want an older woman either and am more attracted to younger (age 28-38).
Do women not like the fact that i have children or is it that they think Im a fake?

Tony

awwww hello & welcome... keep your head up it only gets better

I think many woman may possibly be intimidated by you having children. I was until I met my current BF. My sons are 20 & 26. My BF has 3 daughters 8,10, & 12. I felt like mine were grown & I didn't want to start over. But, I find myself falling for these kids already. They live in IN with their mother & I haven't met them yet. But, I've seen pics & talked to them on the phone. They even drawed me pictures when he was in IN last week to visit them. I can't wait to meet them. So hang in there I'm sure you'll meet someone who loves you & your kids both!! Good luck!!

I think it depends on your commitment to your children or the woman.
Balance it and each one will understand.

Yes a lot of woman could be intimidated by two kids without a mom. Its a delicate type of relationship i imagine. But there are a lot of woman out there who will not mind, i wouldn`t. Hang in there the right one will come along

To some it might be a problem because they don't want to get involved with a ready-made family. They might still be in a "relationship-first" stage and then want to have their own children or might not want to have any children in the relationship at all.

It can work out, the right woman for you is out there.

Thanks evryone for your comments,
I guess I am just impatient and because I have had very little interest Im just feeling left out. Finding local women or at least someone willing to come here is of course also a chalange.

when the rite kind of person comes across u on ur profile or anywher else u wont feel so....if the thot of u being 41 and having 2 beautiful children is 'intimidating' then that's not who u wud want to be in the long run...wen the right person comes along it will all beautifully fall into place....sorry about ur wife....its always sad to lose a loved one...especially at an early age and like that.....i am sure u are doing a great job being there for your children....just keep the faith....there is always light at the end of a dark tunnel hmmm :)

Maria Von Trapp did it.

And sang too!

The only thing I could think of is maybe they are afraid of you comparing them to your wife? I think it is harder when you lose your mate then when you get a divorce. You did NOT have a choice to lose your mate, she was taken from you. So maybe women are afraid to get close to you for that reason?
Plus you have younger children and there are a lot of women out there that have to stop and think IF they really want to raise children again. I know you like younger women, so maybe that won't be a problem, but I do know that I said I would never date anyone with children younger then mine.
Plus I find that when someone loses a loved one from cancer, they would never date someone else that had cancer. They just don't want to go through that again...just in case it happens again. I myself had cancer and I am now in remission BUT I still have a lot of health issues so I just don't date and get someone else involved in my life.
BUT I truly believe that IF you find that right one for you, it will work out. They will love you and they will love your children because they are a part of YOU. If someone can't accept your children, you don't want them any ways.
Good Luck and I am sorry about your loss

Thanks, All I can say is I guess I just need to continue being patient.

Personally I dont think so man! I would be glad ,it would make life much more easier-like a ready made family,u kno wat I mean! It would be interesting to hang out and once in a while sit and do family stuff if everyone is ok, unless a woamn is looking for materialistic stuff,see what she has in it for her,she wont shy away,honestly,that's what I think...........