After being in a relationship for awhile sometimes it ends and the one ending it just wants to be friends. Is this something that always happens or is it unusual? Do relationships end with no friendship remaining at all? Which is prefereable? Does anyone have any advice or information to shed some light on this topic?

i think it all depends on how it ended and how strong the feelings are ive tried it wit some of my exs and the feelings were to hard to handle i think if your in love with the person itd be hard

You can still like and respect someone but know that you're not meant to be together.. I am still friends with most people I've dated... I'd rather be friends if it's possible...

Well isnt a relationship a friendship but with a closer intimacy and more? How can one seperated that after all is said and done?

I'm not sure how to explain it, I just did it.. We valued the friendship we had in the relationship b/c you have to be friends.. We respected one another and wanted to keep the friendship.. It doesn't mean you hang out every day necessarily... But you can hang out, you can be each others "wedding dates", etc.

So like an activity partner?

If that's what one wants.. I have people I used to date we talk on the phone, we can hang out, we have some of the same friends so go to the same parties, etc..

i suppose it's a better alternative to chopping them up and disposing of them, however, remaining friends can have a lot to do with how the "relationship" ended. it probably has a lot to do with who is the one wanting the break-up too.

there are many variables here, each circumstance is as unique as the people involved. i guess what it comes down to is people and how they choose to end things. it's too bad that most don't show as much care at the end as they do in the beginning.

im still friends with my very first bf when i was 16yrs old after 30yrs
we were better friends than having a relationship together
im also still friends with several others

there was one yr this guy i was seeing he was over and my phone rang and it happen to be the old bf of 30yrs talked to him a brief and told him i had a bf and it was no big deal.
after i got off the phone the bf at the time ask if i still talk to my ex which i didnt find it a problem and when i ask he said it wasent a problem


there is this one guy i dated for a year.
he been beganng me back for the last 20yrs
its not going to happen for he a dang alcoholic he wont change
in fact the other nite he called and my cellphone was having a weird issue where it would eco he accused me on having a guy next to me, where there was no one
he was a controloer, and very demanding. which i would turn away from him..


there is this one guy i have been talking to that lives in mo and he has plans to move down to this area.
he stated if we got together he didnt want me to have any communication with my ex... that to me i didnt feel right

why are there two of these threads?

To me friendships are so important, I have always remained friends if possible but sometimes people cant be both, its always up to the individual and what has happened, .But its so sad to lose a friendship just because things dont work out

I tried to change the spelling and it posted twice

Well Thanks for the insightfull postings, its always good to learn new views of things to add to ones life :)

This is a duplicate topic. Please use the following thread.

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/294136

Kim