come on, spark --hit me-- ---no--not the lighter--

lol yea you just keep that lighter away from my little fire cracker a$$

I personally went on the second...just to make sure. I thought maybe he was nervous (which is understandable). Another thing: I was NOT nervous at all. That was my first clue.

Maybe the sparky thing is just a way for us to know when the other person isn't the right one. It's hard to define, yet everyone here knows exactly what you are talking about. And you always know if you feel that SPARK

Well I dont think it can really mean the right one....because you can have it with more then one person....you just dont get it with everybody

i just think you know when you meet someone if they give you that feeling inside
and no not lust..that is different

Joyce,

I am feeling the same way I'm starting to wounder if I can even care about anyone ever again.

wots a date i havent been out with anybody in a long time

thank you iRon--
yes- you start to wonder if there is something wrong with you
i just get tired of listening to all the lies...
guys saying they do not want just sex and the next thing you know they have their hands all over you..so maybe now i am just keeping my distance

Ok, if we aren't feeling the sparks anymore, like maybe we used to when we were all young (those were the days), does that mean after the failed relationships we are more jaded now, or that we put up walls because we know it's not going to work out, or because we don't want to get hurt?

people naturally put up walls because they do not want to get hurt again...it is a way of keeping your self from fallin to fast and from trustin to easy...there isnt always walls put up because we think it wont work...

**listen to--Rush--tom sawyer**

whoops---wrong place-- --backing out--

Shadow shhhs

shadowdog---- your a nut

Joyce you are right when you meet the right one the feeling is much different...speaking from exp...i had walls so high for 5 plus yrs met a man on POF lol a yr ago feb...we spent as much time together as we could he drove truck and was on the road alot so our time was limited but we had wonderful times together but he got scared and ran...we still talk but with him the walls crumbled and I know in my heart he is the one...I just have to be patient and trust God to help him with his fears and allow him his space to sew whatevr oats he is trying to sew to distract him from me lmao but recently he told me he is doing alot of thinking on us. I believe if its to be God will make a way and its much different than lust...so when its the right one you will know hun and nothing will stop you from standing and seeing it thru...its the only choice you will want to make i know....its hard sometimes when one is ready and the other is not but in time it will work out if he is the one...good luck and be patient you are fine! I know i see mine on here and POF and other sites looking and running but i am not going anywhere LOL....

noyhings wrong with you i'm still looking for Mr.right looks like i'll be looking for awhile

I don't believe in sparks unless they're coming from my cigarette lighter. I've been burned by sparks before and so have taken a vow of friendship first - then I'll see how he feels about diaperng monkeys...

okay, but even with friendship that move on there has to be something that tells you this is that person i want to move on to the next step an have a relationship with otherwise you are saying you can have that with anyone of your friends.

joyce, go with medium expectations then you will get spark & chemistry both, lol