I am a 34 year old male.I am what you call a "nice guy". The reason i know this is simply by my reputation from people who know me and what they have come to expect. Nice guys like me are often overlooked by women simply because most women do not want a "nice guy". Not trying to sound bias or sexist,but this little know truth (which i have seen and felt all my life) is as true as gasoline is flammable. If i were to be proven wrong,i would promptly apologize to whomever disproved my thoughts on this manner. Good guys do finish last,but "we" (good guys,caring understanding and often naive) try to blend in,and often times find we have to change our entire exterior and more often not our interior thoughts process to win a youngs ladys heart. Am i wrong? Or is there truth to what i have written? Tell me your thoughts

I would have to say I like your comment. It is true, for the most part. Unfortunately, for me I haven't experience that. I have always been the indepedent, self-sufficient type of person. I don't open up as often like most guys. So, most girls never know much about me. You sometimes hear girls say that some of the good men out there are afraid to open. They fear getting hurt. Now, I will say I FIT in that category. I dont open up to girls. I intentionally try to be friends with them and I dont want anything else. Usually they end of liking me; I either keep it at a friend level or I dont approach them as often. Now, I'm not saying this is the way to go. This is just my experience.
Interestingly,some girls distiguish "nice" guys from "good" guys. I guess you can google it to see the differences.

http://www.helium.com/items/1330667-what-is-the-difference-between-a-nice-guy-and-a-good-man. it's interesting!!! it may help!!

I used to be a nice guy but I gave that up. I got tired of people thinking my middle name was Welcome!

Good point Mr. Mat..........

Oh, you don't want to be a "nice guy".

Nice guys play the victim and get stomped on because they bend to the wiles of (usually) the wrong women.

Just be yourself and don't settle! You'll find the right girl that won’t take advantage of you.

*psst* Hi Jeff!!

Merry Christmas honey..... Boy that Santa sure has a smile on his face........

Don't feel alone...good girls get the crap too

He was a naughty Santa too! He was copping feels the whole time and asking me to sit on his lap!

That was taken at a Fun Run for Abused Animals Charity - before the race. He was crack'n me up!

I finished the 10k with an average of 11 minute miles. Not bad for being 4 weeks out of surgery.

Maybe they just don't like you?

But hey, whatever excuse floats your boat.

I agree with Melody. Stop playing the victim and take some time to figure yourself out. Once you're there, you'll have the confidence you'll need to win her over. Patience......

just be yourself. its that simple

ding ding ding
we have a winner



I am going to go find a "pinch his cheek" emoticon...

Amen to the OP. The hard thing is stopping at "nice guy" before becoming "doormat".
"Nice" is, by definition, a good thing. And interestingly enough, obsolete meanings of the word were "shy, reluctant, or coy". Maybe these are the things a "nice guy" needs to drop to improve his chances.