Please...anyone....pleez end my misery

Seriously, i am not a bad person because I can not make a crappy relationship work out! Yes, I was still not over my ex & this idiot was well aware of that fact when he decide he should move in with me. While in said crappy LTR I did not see or speak with my other ex, except when I sent him divorce papers. I broke up with the drunk/pill-headed idiot and still did not reconnect with the ex hubby for several months! No, I never got over the ex hubby, but I did everything possible to do so and behaved respectfully while with him!

Now I am some evil heartless beeotch dealing out misery and pain and ruining the lives of men across the world & chit! He told me I should be happy now that his life is completely miserable & I said, "well that's not my fault"! According to him it is because I chose to "be with him" & then (after many drunk/pill popping crazy episodes) decided not to so now he has to live with his momma in the hood where life is chitty! Her car broke down & now he's walking to/from work, apparently somehow my fault too.

I was being nice before this & offered to give him a ride home after work since I was heading to that part of town-->WTF?

pleez, just shoot me!!! He can effin walk now 4 sure

Don't let some dumb azz man cause you to call yourself these things.
You know better, girl.
His problems are not your fault. Ever.

Sorry lady. You did in your heart what you felt was right. You owe no one an explanation but now you can leave him alone because he proved he is not worth your time. I applaud you for doing the right thing even though it caused a little trouble.

this. you are stronger than all that j. don't give fools power.

misery loves company,him being misery of course.

Out of respect here. I can't see myself dating someone if I wasn't over my ex. I wouldn't bring my issues into another relationship, and at the same time I wouldn't be giving myself to the relationship. Other words, I would be lying to myself and the other. And to think another would get rid of my feeling if I had any still. Would be a big mistake.



As far as letting him move in with you. It's something you both should of though about real hard before it happened and communicated. At the same time he did know what he was getting into so he has nothing to B about.

You are responsible for your happiness--and your misery. Every choice in your life was your decision, and if you allowed others to influence your decisions, that was your choice, eh?

Methinks that you want sympathy, but what you really need is to stop blaming other and stop looking for excuses as to why your relationships fail.

I will give you the best piece of advice that anyone can give you, but I have the feeling that you will whine and reject it. Here goes, anyway:

Leave the men alone--and leave them alone for a long time. Work on your relationship with yourself, not guys whom you allow to bring you down. Get the guys out of your life, and then, you and ONLY you are responsible for how your life will go.

No one can take advantage of you unless you let him. No one can control you unless you give over control. No one can make you feel bad about yourself and your life unless you allow that.

Shut them out--and if you let them for any reason, whose decision is that?

This one.

By the way, beautiful picture RowBaby.

Are you saying you want a spanking?

will give you the best piece of advice that anyone can give you, but I have the feeling that you will whine and reject it. Here goes, anyway:

Leave the men alone--and leave them alone for a long time. Work on your relationship with yourself, not guys whom you allow to bring you down. Get the guys out of your life, and then, you and ONLY you are responsible for how your life will go.

No one can take advantage of you unless you let him. No one can control you unless you give over control. No one can make you feel bad about yourself and your life unless you allow that.

Shut them out--and if you let them for any reason, whose decision is that?

better advice we are responsible in our own action and decision.

You sweetheart you :)

Its easy to blame other for what is our own fault.......You should just quit enabling him and let him take responsibility for his own life......no need to answer his calls.....no need to read an email or letter.....just ignore his exiatence and let him handle him....which is how it should have been all along.....

wish i could see.

that pill popper only has himself to blame, of COURSE he is going to put the blame on you---- that is exactly what abusive people do. RISE UP GIRLFRIEND. You are above him. You did what you had to do. . . now you must move on, move forward.

let God decide. we can hold everything in our hand

i don't see nothing you did wrong you left the guy cause you were fed up with the booze and pills and i bet you gave him tons of chances to get help but people can only change themselfs most of the time unless they get expert help treatment even then they can fall back in a rut you seem like a decent lady don't be so hard on yourself not your falt and remember no 1 in this world is perfect cheers and have a awesome night hugsssssssss

we cant hold everything in our hand.

thanks, i was wondering why you said let god decide and then talked about holding it in our own hands. I hate when i see a typo that changes the statement i intend to send. Mispelling one thing, no bigs, but I hate when I type and it flips the whole meaning. haha.

hugsssssss is acceptance and understanding. you could give hug to a friend, family and closest friend.