. . . my heart is not. My wife left me 6 months ago and I haven't seen my boys since. The oldest just turned 9, and I missed it. I miss them so much it hurts. I can't look at pictures of them without crying.

I don't really have a question or anything. Just venting.

hopefully you are over her, and can focus on being a part of your sons' lives

some mothers can help make it easy - other mothers can try to make it hard

as long as your heart is still set on her it will be hard to progress

No, my heartache is for my boys. I struggled for two years trying to keep us together and she left me anyway, while I was sick. I miss my boys and I'm lonely, but I'm not hoping she'll come back.

Maybe once your divorce goes through, you will have visitation rights. I truly believe that sometimes the parents use the children against each other to hurt their mates.
Make sure you are totally over her before you date or get involved with someone. Make sure your divorce is done and over with so she can't hold that over your head. I truly believe you have to end one relationship before you start another one.
I wish you luck on getting to see your children. I know that our children are our hearts.

i can only imagine your pain..
all i can say is.. you have your boys to fight for.. focus on whats important.. getting your right of meeting your boys.

till then..we here foryou mate... vent all you want

6 months and no visitation yet??? Thats not right. You'd have to do something pretty awful to deserve not seeing your kids. If you didnt your ex is a rotten person for hurting you like that. Kids should not be used as pawns

It isn't visitation rights . . . it's distance, money, and health. I just can't get to them.

Oh man that is hard to hear - I can perhaps imagine what you must be going through... I'm separated as well, and I've decided to live in a country that isn't my own, having learn a new culture and language, in order to be close to my boy.

I really hope you manage to work something out, and I think it's rough your ex is just up and moving away with them like that. You're their father, and they need you too.

I feel for you. Idont; know about your country. But as you rdivorce approaches make sure that visitation is set up. I'm starting that process, and due to living through it fo r10 years with his ex wife. I will NOT put my son through that. He should adore his daddy, even though daddy has doen bad things to me, it shouldn;t effect his relationship with his child. Good Luck man.