hi my name is crystal and i need some advice i recently got into a new relationship with a guy who loves me alot, but my problem is i dont feel the same way about him. i dont want to hurt him becasue he really is a sweet guy but i dont know what i should do.

dont lie to your self or him....

how can i tell him that i dont feel the same way though with out hurting him

if you just got into this relationship, how can he love you "a lot?"

honestly there is no good way to this, but better to do it now than to wait and lead him to think otherwise.

ya i know i should but he really is a nice guy and he does everything for me even when i dont want him too he still does

well if he is a sweet guy, what is wrong. do you want to be with a mean guy. talk to him and tell him what you would like to help your relationship blossom

the only problem is sometimes he does have a temper and i have talked to him about it, he just tells me that he loves me and dont want to lose me

so what gets him upset. like is it something he needs professional counselling for

Lead with a compliment: "You're such a great and caring guy but I'm just not ready for a relationship with you."

He'll go whywhywhy crycrycry and ask you a thousand questions, and you, sweet girl, don't go into all of that, but just repeat, "you're such a great.... but I'm just not ready for a .... with you".

This'll get you out of it, but don't kid yourself, having someone break up with you is painful, period.

The question you want to ask yourself, is whether you want to stay with a guy you're not into, because you don't want to hurt his feelings. If the answer is no, you want to be with someone you are into, or be by yourself, then do it, just do it baby, you can't save the world, and you can't keep from hurting people a little here and now. That just goes with being human, but if you don't purposely and intentionally want to hurt other people, you're as good as the best.

Take care and good luck!

if he doesn't have you, he can't really lose you can he?

sounds like you enjoy having him there to do things for you and maybe you are the one afraid to lose his services. this is not fair to him and when he catches on he is going to hate you for this.

you need to cut the cord....