I have a question to ask you guys please ? When is it a good time to talk about onces past be it good or bad ? I understand not on your 1st date or 2nd or even laster on etc But when then ? I truly believe in telling the truth + lying gets you nowhere but into trouble + if you really like them man/woman you should tell the truth I'm only asking because it's been a long long time for me being out of the dating game OH and please let me know if you have any other helpful Ideas on any other subjects dating friendship etc Thank you take care God Bless Lonely Guy.

when it comes up!

Whenever you feel comfortable with it, I usually get the **** things of my past out in the open in the beginning...at least that way I don't have to worry about them running away when they learn about it later on down the road and have time to stuff them under my stoo...err, yeah...whenever you are comfortable with it.

you fox....

is it that bad? the worse it is - like u were in Leavenworth for 15 yrs..the sooner it needs to be told

(always fancied a visit to Kansas m'self)

I have no idea what you are implicating here, but surely you jest?

I mean...it's not like I'm some kind of crazed cannibal or anything, heh...really, I'm not...

Somethings are better left unsaid.........

you can't change the past, so leave it there
you can't predict the future, so wait until you get there
simply enjoy the "present" a gift of today
(having your criminal history records sealed helps)
and if she ever brings anything up, deny, deny, deny

ultimately, I don't know that I've seen anything on here that I have agreed with more - a new love defines keeping it all in the present

nonetheless some things- like a past criminal history or children from a previous marriage prolly need to be mentioned even if only "as a matter of fact"

If it is something that you feel needs to be said then say it. If it is something that could possibly make them turn and run the sooner the better... Other wise let it be if they want to know they will ask you then answer them truthfully.

it occurrs to me that I have no way of knowing if u r or r not the demented Mr. D,

and I do not jest - u r sly as a fox, fear and never has there been any one more fun to befriend on a message board

So I would need to divulge all of my babys mama's and explain this ankle bracelet......

something like that - or ur new woman is going to wonder why "Patrice," and "Nakeisha" are always calling about their "checks"

Actually, I agree with this for the most part. The earlier, the better. Hence, no surprises. People know what they're getting into. You can't live in fear.

That said, you also need to develop the right tact, and a sense of timing. Without tact, your chances drop exponentially. With it, and with timing, your chances increase considerably. If you get these two together early on, many will admire your honesty, and try to learn more about the situation.

Hell, I've learned over the years that I am drawn to and attract people with issues. I deal with it as it comes. I have my own issues, but I've also had some training in that area. Thus, I've dealt with a number of problems I might never had the chance to. I didn't mean it to be that way....it just happened. Over time, I learned that there was something that brought me and such people together. That's when I began thinking about it so I could understand and accept it.

Follow up question ? What if your past had some darkness in it something so horrible so bad so terrible so ugly there is just no words to describe it But wait before you judge out right What if this man or woman calls out to (God All Mighty) Him self and says please God in Jesus Christs name I call a upon you for your forgives and I repent all his/Her sins by mouth and truly believe in the good news and That you God raised your holy one your son Lord Jesus Christ up from the grave to walk belong the living onces again So what do you think ? I repent 3 years ago and was saved and to this day I will forever love God All Mighty and are lord and King Jesus Christs I will pray for you all God Bless Lonely Guy.

As far as your last question there are some that are religious and some that are not....

Even though I do believe I also believe it is not so much God you have to have forgive you but you yourself..... must forgive you.... Once we learn to deal with our past ourselves that is the first and foremost thing.....

I'm not so sure there is anything that I could not over look beyond murder, molesting another in some form or another....

Many times some decide to reveal way too much way too early.... best to find out if the other person is even interested first....

I can think of very few things that dark. I have two places where I draw the line, but I am constantly evolving too. Who's to say that I have the same boundaries 5 or 10 years from now?

TxsGal is right. Sometimes forgiving yourself is when real progress is made. Once you do that, you have the confidence which can make or break a date despite your secret. Confidence breeds confidence.

Well I once was locked in my dog Kennel In Nebr cause Simba jumped up and it automatically locked!! Spent 3 hrs in there cause I didnt have the key with me, finally my neighbor got home and let me out (AFTER the 20 minutes it took him from stopping laughing!! Does that count?

JUST 20 mins. ?