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| Topic: Wrong For Women To Propose to Guys? | |
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Damn right I know my role...I go out and club the baby seal...let the squaw cook it. (I better hump it after I club it cause I got a feelin the old lady aint gonna give me none tonight) Krupa! Buddy! You have a bike right? Let's knife fight for Kim so her ownership can be proper! 
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hey wait...I'm being owned now????? hope ya guys can keep me
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hey wait...I'm being owned now????? hope ya guys can keep me
Just keeping it legal!
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Hey, Equality is equality. If we want to have it, we have to own it. 
SO you can pay the tab and open the doors and bring the flowers too.?? You've never done any of those things? NOOO. After being in a relationship I will pick up the tab sometimes. but never flowers or open doors. A real man would not like that. Huh. I open doors all the time for all kinds of people. Definitely not just a man's job. Neither is picking up the tab all the time. As for flowers, I guess it's going to depend on the guy. |
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Edited by
Oceanbluze
on
Tue 11/09/10 09:28 AM
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I wouldn't say it's wrong for a woman to propose, I just don't think you're going to find many women who are willing to do so. ...well, that's the point: If it isn't wrong, why is it such a "tabboo" for women to do when they feel like it? Could it be that "macho" society forbids it or that "humble" womanity simply capitulated? I really dont think women consider forbidden or taboo, I think women are MUCH MORE EMOTIONAL than a man. For a man to propose get deny and move on--possibly, for woman to propose and to be rejected would touch her much more emotionally in a detrimental way. If you are at the grocery store with your lady and you see a box of homeless kittens-who is more likely to offer up a place in your home, you or your lady. Sure the cats are cute but the lady is not just thinking about how cute they are, she is thinking long term----if I dont take the kitten they will eventually die on the street or be euthanized. A man on the other hand will simply say no way and move on with his life. He will agree they are cute, but not consider the life sentence for the kitten. This displays a lack of emotional depth. This is not to say that man is not emotional but the levels of emotion are significantly different, which can be a determining factor on why most women would deflect the opportunity to propose on her own and risk rejection over a man. |
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Hey, Equality is equality. If we want to have it, we have to own it.
SO you can pay the tab and open the doors and bring the flowers too.?? You've never done any of those things? NOOO. After being in a relationship I will pick up the tab sometimes. but never flowers or open doors. A real man would not like that. Huh. I open doors all the time for all kinds of people. Definitely not just a man's job. Neither is picking up the tab all the time. As for flowers, I guess it's going to depend on the guy. 
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OK the question at hand, I believe that if a woman feels trongly enough about it, then yes she should. And for the comments on never sending a man flowers-- whay not? I've done that with almost every guy I've been with. They are usually flattered,(loved it) alot of them never got flowers from a woman before. I think a romantic and chivalrous man is a wonderful thing. BUT nowadays its all fair. If it feels right, then you should try.
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i dont know know too many women who keep their true feeling inside when it comes to marriage, I do think they will express to their partner, ie: I can totally see us married and having a family, or ie: we've been together for (x) amount of years when are we going to get married. those are the ways women let their men know they are waiting to marry them. As far as getting on one knee and proposing and paying for a ring, thats something that is foreign i think. I dont really know any women who have done that or are willing too. Nice approach in tackling the issue. However, do you think that the use of clues and/or suggestive languages help the matter much more than a direct proposal would? well first, it's important to remember that statistically more men remarry than women Now as far as the OPs questions- who cares? do what u do say what u say just make sure you can walk the walk u talk - we all have different comfort levels regarding reversing traditional gender roles. I seldom even message first much less propose - never ask a guy out on a first date - so I doubt I'll be doing any proposing any time or at all lol...hmmmmm....seems like you nailed the coffin by expressing finality of effort in the opposite direction. Fine: at least we know your stand on this matter. Anyway, you highlight an important relevant issue here: "reversing traditional gender roles" 1. Who set those roles? 2. Why is it so necessary to keep those roles undisturbed? 3. If associate parts of the bundle of traditional gender roles are experiencing a paradigm shift, why can't the whole bundle of roles be exposed to scrutiny and possible reversal (e.g., remember affirmative rights, voting rights, etc). Your thoughts please.... 
take a chill the OP was mine, that answer you are responding to is not, check it before you jump to assumpions, you will find my answer further down in the posts |
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Twice I had women pop the question. (No F'n way I was gonna do it) The first time, Nylka....wanted me to marry her (ok) but I would have to move to Puerto Rico (Hell yeah!) AND I would have to convert to Catholisizm..............BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA (I thought she knew me better than that.) Second Time, Desrah proposed to me....not that long ago...The One I never had gotten over....probably would have ment more if she wasnt already married. Ask away ladies....Hope you gals have better luck than the guys. Desrah sounds like a smart chick - hedging her bets against the future with some pre planning & all
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