I just figured that there is such a thing as "Perpetual Dating Syndrome" (PDS) A.K.A. "Evergreen Dating Malady" (E.D.M.). My prognosis is that sufferers have this irresistible compulsion to surf the net for potential "dates" and are satiated by the attention they receive through chatting and interacting with numerous unknown folks who they may never meet in real life.
Victims of PDS/EDM are frequent on multiple dating sites and do not really make concerted efforts to get hooked by anyone in particular. They "shop" and "browse" dates just for the thrill of it. They "rent" and reside on dating sites world without end.

Anyone "feel" me?

Although this is true for some, I think most make at least a
minimal effort. They're just not really sure how to accomplish
reaching the desired goal of actually finding someone for a
long-term partnership-especially since the whole online method
is new to them. It seems they hold back and don't really know
exactly what they want or are looking for, and that accounts
for a lot of hit-and-miss experiences. If you are serious, know
exactly what you do and don't want, make those intentions clear,
and find others with the same mindset, you have a better shot
at finding what you're looking for and making it last.


Hello and welcome by the way.

or...it could be called social networking.

Abso-freakin-lutely.

Or there ain't sh^t on TV...

and you conclude this after all of five hours here?

something tells me you quite possibly have used/seen this before, perhaps on a different dating site?

Oh Hi, thanks for the welcome.
What an intelligent perspective you introduce to the topic.
I totally concur that there are the confused, the ignorant, and the hesitant when it comes to online dating. No doubt about that!!

However, I have encountered people who play the "online dating game" and are very well versed in the gimmickry (or so they think).

My candid perception of a dating site is that it's like IHOP (the restaurant - get in, place order, get served, eat, pay the cost, get out) - you get in with a clearly defined objective as you indicated; diligently set goals regarding hooking up with Mr/Ms Right; commit to the agenda without wasting anyone's time; make it happen and move on. Finding love should never be a lifetime project. Building and nurturing the love is the real project - because love is a process (a marathon as opposed to a sprint).
What do you think?

I guess it is a wrong presumption to think:
1. the views expressed are based on observations on this site;
2. that views can only be expressed after observation and/or personal experience.
Both of these are logical fallacies - I'm sorry - wrong premise, hence wrong conclusion. But it's true.

Most of the folks seeking love on this site and others are educated, well informed individuals whose contributions on message boards help invigorate and stimulate analytical idea exchanges.

love is a journey to me, not a process. the IHOP scenario, while seemingly ideal, sounds more like hooker bar, lol. people are here for all kinds of reasons, from all walks of life.... and anything worthwhile takes time. good luck to you.

If love is a journey, my last one was the highway to hell....

the reason i suggest this is, because your observation skills must be on another level than most peoples. less than 5 hours, on a slow night and you can already diagnose "most of the folks" here?

either you are exceptionally intuitive or the opinion expressed was perhaps predetermined. maybe i am reading it wrong, who knows. i suppose time will tell.

and i have never been to an ihop, somehow i think the experience would be quite different from the experience here.

Great points: yep 'people are here for all kinds of reasons" - that's one of the reasons why online dating confuses and frustrates so many people. The "clutter" of distracting intentions against worthwhile agenda. You said it, I concur.
Good luck to you too!

truly, the only difference between this and RL is you can be confused and distracted by someone across the ocean. unless you decide to accept other people's agendas may differ from your own (friends, intimate encounter, serious relationship...all choices you can pick on here), you may be disappointed alot. it doesn't make theirs any less worthwhile IMHO.

does that come with blueberry syrup?

Love it when people come on a dating site and talk all educated.

sure, sugar, you want it on the side?

no i like it spread all over the place...