On my way to work, I was listening to Lex and Terry and Terry made the following comment.

"If you are an average guy, and you are dating a chick who is athletic, likes to work out, etc. and you just don't do that, well, you will end up losing said chick to a dude who is athletic."

Now, I hear on this site (and in every day life) people saying how something like this would not hurt a relationship. So, I figured I would bring this question to the people of Mingle to see what all of you have to say about his comment.

Like anything.... I think it has to do with preferences.

You would hope that someone starts dating someone because they are attracted to them, physically and mentally.

However, just like any relationship regardless of body type, people change their minds or enter into relationships (while looking for greener pastures).

I am overweight now... and am on track at the gym and plan on skinny'ing up a little. But, if I entered into a relationship with someone while in this process, I wouldn't dump them when I became more fit.

I don't know. I am babbling.... did I answer your question?

Like Tanya said, preference...
I am by no means 'athletic'- and don't need some buffed out lumberjack (although that wouldn't be bad) but I do like to stay active, get outside and on the move as much as possible. I don't think I could be with one who was out of shape and preferred sitting around...
I wouldn't want to be in the gym half the day either, so there are a few 'if's'.

i guess i missed something, because i don't see it as a weight issue. i see it more as a no common interests kinda thing. if she is going to the gym and he's at home (or vice versa) the one at home will lose out because the one going out is bound to run into someone who is going out too.

See, in his mind, he felt that a woman will (eventually) go for the dude who has the hard body. She will lust over him and that will lead to her leaving her man. I am not saying he is right. I have seen that happen.

I was merely asking on here because I hear alot of people talk about how weight isn't an issue. I am sure to some it is.

if she is happy in the relationship she is in then maybe not,but then again she may bail for the beefcake

beefcake

the 'beefcake' sometimes is nice to look at or smell..not est.

I agree with this.

i see obviously buff guys who work out all the time with gals much larger than i... and less athletic of a build as mine though i dont work out... i was born muscular.. guys do like to do thier own thing as well... does this mean that guys that golf dont date gals that dont golf?

I want him athletic in the bedroom....

That's all..,

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You started the raltionship there had to be some physical attraction. If they dump someone just because they started working out and their partner didn't thats just shallow. and who wants to saty there?

haha you tell me

Great example!!

Perhaps he meant she'd rather be with someone who likes to do all the things she enjoys? If the average guy doesn't like to work out, or anything like that, there maybe some issues. If he does, then it's probably not a big deal.

Basically, my feeling is that Terry (on the show) was talking about how two different body types just cannot ever last. That is how it sounded when he said it.

See...and I would loooove to rub the belly

but that's me!!

I wouldn't see it as being an attraction issue. I have been attracted to heavier set guys as well as athletic guys. It's all in the personality. So if a girl dumps a heavier set guy for a athletic guy I would see it as they lacked common interest or being shallow.

If you're just going by body type, I don't agree. I see different body types together all the time. And like everyone else has said, it all has to do with preferences.

it might depend on how extreme the attention to fitness health is. if it's a lifestyle, then two polar opposites may not make it. if something other than physical attraction brought them together, maybe it's not a deal breaker. but if she/he leaves because of a hard body at the gym, the relationship must not have been much to begin with.

Girls like that looks only at the guys body figure and his pocket, they don't really care about the real you. I really don't like this kind of girls even if she athletic or great looking, please no offense but it's like a doll with no brain.