Like the title suggests, Short and Sweet version, I'm Twenty Five, I Work Hard, I'm usually An upstanding guy, I Know what I Want in life..Thats the good, Now the bad..I have a Son, I Pay an entire paycheck a month to stay out of Jail, Why You Ask ? Child Support, Healthcare, Baby Momma Drama, The Whole Nine.. Instant Date Killer. There is no way I can have a healthy relationship and deal with this Woman, I've Asked, Pleaded, and Prayed for her to Leave me The Hell Alone, but she refuses to comply or even attempt to try. Nasty Txt messages, Calling Child support on me for "Failure to Pay" and I Get The Shaft (So I Got A Lawer) How Do I Do This (I've Been Single and alone for well Over two years) She Road trips over 300 miles (for free Btw) to see her BF and screams at me for when I tell her I can't keep our son for a week while she goes. She goes twice a month really ? How Do I Find A woman Strong enough to endure that and be able to explain to her that I Really Am Screwed and not expect her to walk away ? Two Already Have when they've asked about me it.. Help.

Short and sweet version:

If you still have the attorney, ask for the proper papers to be drawn up concerning which parent has the child for however long (ie weekends, holidays, etc.).

If you need the child support lowered, again, speak to your attorney. He/she can help you through this process.

As far as the harassment goes, keep the text messages documented and file a police report(s). Most states have laws against harassment by cellphone, etc. now. Documentation is extremely important in this and the officers will want to see the actual texts.

Good luck to you!

pack up an leave town...as long as she has access to you, you are going to be living in hell...sad for your child, but hopefully in time you will be able to have a relationship seperate from the mother.

Totaly agree with both posts above!
I really don't see any other way!
J.M.O.
Good Luck!

lilolmefromsd and pmarco, both great advice. don't try to take matters in your own hands. document everything, police reports, text messages, in some states only one party has to agree to recorded telephone conversations(you can be the one party when she calls), but a lawyer is your best bet. any money you give her is a gift unless it goes through child support office. check with the lawyer, but a percentage of your base pay could be the only money she is allowed to receive from you. if that is the case, have your employer set a base pay, and receive the difference as a bonus. be sure to check with the lawyer first, because this may not be legal in your state. stay honest with the women you meet, one will decide to help you endure the ex, some women like a challenge. good luck bro.

Get a lawyer.
If possible, pay child support through state, directly from paycheck if available. (You can do this in Michigan) The check is never late, never behind. If the money doesn't get to her....thats between her and the state, not me.
Get a custody and visitation schedule hammered out with the court and stand by it.
See if there are any limited restraining orders/ orders of personal protection that can be put in place that can limit her contact with you.

Since your profile says 'never married' ask court to force a paternity determination.

My 'alleged son' was almost 2 yrs before I found out the truth.

Good Luck

You got sound advice from people who posted before I did. Yes, I agree that the most important is to have everything in black and white, and to have records of...well, everything. Have a diary too and jot down all that happens and remember to be specific about the date and time. Details and facts are the most important things that are going to be considered when you do fight this. Those will be your ace when things go to court.

i dont think bailing is the right idea. thats not fair to anyone, if you want to pay less, get more involved in the childs life and spend more shared custody, it will benefit you and the child and you will have less money to pay to her. I mean unless you commited some kind of hainus crime you are entitled to be a part of his life as much as she is.