knock it out then don't return his calls

make him think what did i do

Im there right now...follow your heart,live your life for yourself, not for others..

i think that finding him discussing wedding colors with someone else while he is engaged to you would be all the answers you should EVER need!

it sounds like everyone around you sees him for what he is. now it's time for you to see him with your eyes and not just your heart.

Geyah!

WTF!

It wasn't his color they didn't like. They saw him for the game playing jerk he was!


You should SLAP YOURSELF now for having left out that one important tidbit about him being your EX Fiance! Then SLAP YOURSELF for having asked this question. Had he of been a man of integrity he would not have had everyone around you not liking him. It sounds to me like you "Heard" everyone complain about his color. You might have left out the other things they were saying about him too!



DAMN! Color does not matter. Character does. A Black Dumbass is still a Black Dumbass and so is a White Dumbass and a Hispanic Dumbass. Dumbasses are just that but if they are black or white or purple with a green racing stripe down their back who cares?

Again if he was a real man would you be breaking up with him under these circumstances? NO!



This sounds like it is winding up to be some real Jerry Springer sh** soon!

Where is Steve when you need him?

Oh good grief. you wanna lose racists associates any ole way

Good to see I'm not the only one observing the obvious here...

tres bein

Here's your sign...

hey Ima thinkin she shouldnt need help wiht this one...

for some reason attention i beg for comes to mind,meh whatever

You live in Oklahoma. Laws can't fix stupidity.

STEVE!!!!!!!!!!.............

Your friends and family might know something that you don't know so I would listen to them. I can remember my grandfather would listen to what everybody else would say then do what he wanted to do. I tried to date a half black lady once. So did my black male buddy. She really liked women. But we all three hanged out together. She was so much fun. I will never forget her. She embarrassed the hell out of me. When she took me for a ride in her car she whistled and cat called every woman on the block. I just kept sinking lower in my seat. She just laughed at me because she knew I was shy. What a gift she gave me in that. And she confided in me that she was bi and she never told my black male buddy that I know of. We were both infatuated with her but she was the life of our party. Eventually she started to hang out with him more. I think he had it together better than I did during that time.

well, you know your own heart - know your own mind as well. The difficulty is how your heart can cloud your mind... if you just met the guy - enjoy the fun of a budding relationship - I mean, it's not like you are running off and gettting married and/or having kids...!!..

Let it play out... relationships are not like light switches...!

$.02

so, what did u do?

if everyone is telling you not to get back together with your ex... they probably already know what has happened with you and him. and possibly, will happen again. Sometimes you get too close to a person to really see the situation that you are in.

my life drawing teacher always pointed out that once you get too close to a drawing, you can't see the important details anymore. you have to step back, turn it upside down, anything to just get a fresh perspective. that's why your friends and family are telling you these things, they have already that objective point of view that you need.

so thats what you have to do. turn this relationship upside down, step back, objectively look at the entire situation. maybe try just honestly writing down everything that you think about what has happened, and then read it. maybe that can show you how you really feel about things.

you can even burn it afterwards if that helps.

Listen to your peers. If more then one person gave you this advice, then something must be behind it. Don't wait 10 years down the line to realize that what they said to you was true. (i know from experience) You know what you should do.. good luck

please, please don't listen to your peers, do what you think don't confuse that with what other people might think. I fight to not make decisions on what other people think. If they love me and are distressed I'll consider their opinion, but throw it out if they aren't obviously right. Did you hear my distress?