So I find myself in a place thinking of dating again and it scares me, I will not be looking in a bar, or any of the places I looked for guys when I was a teenager. Where do I start? I am obviously looking online, but what else? Tell me your best dating, looking for someone ideas...
My advice would be to sit down and think of where you want to be in 5, 10 maybe 15 years. Write it down, with that in mind what are you gonna look for in a companion? Personally I plan on being a Mom first and foremost until my kids are all 18, thats 11 years from now, so I am not really looking for a man that wants to get married right away, I have plenty of time to look and meet people, I want to not settle this time, I want a relationship that will last the rest of my life...how do I find him???

You have good ideas on the writing it down and then looking for that person. It may and probably will take you longer, but my only advice is to be patient. Like you were saying, don't rush into anything and don't just settle for someone. Keep on going and keep the faith that our father will allow you and someone you can love get together. Seek our father first and he will provide the rest of your desires.

there are many places you can go to interact with people. most of the time we tend to make a circle of friends with who we interact with on a daily basis. work, school, or where you spend most of your time is usually where you will meet someone who has an interest in you. if you want to try the on line thing, remember that you may meet someone far from where you are. you will have to be willing to relocate, or willing to help someone relocate to where you are. let the people who know you best that you want to date. sometimes they have a friend or relative who they might be able to introduce you to. keep an open mind because God works in mysterious ways. you might meet someone at a bar, just be sober when you are there. no matter who you meet, take your time, get to know their character, not just how they act in front of you, and above all...pray daily.

Take you time in getting to know someone. Don't necessary judge someone by just one dating experience. People can change daily. Hey, don't feel like the Lone Ranger on the idea of fear of dating. It is scary for me at least. I have had the most wonderful experience in just being friends here lately. I feel less clingy. I feel free being single without that I just got to have a date. I totally gave up on that idea that I need someone else to complete me. That better half idea just seems ridiculous to me because I can actually take stuff to extremes and see an insignificant other as a whole person. I mean who wants to date just half a person. Even trying to think of dating can give me panic attacks. When you meet someone and think that you might want to date them you might look at them and see if they have the ability to be a friend. What are they like on there worst days. What are they like when you catch them off guard. Personally if I was going to go on a blind date I think it would be nice for both to keep the blind folds on for a while and let your other senses see if they can detect anything that eyes and ears miss. It might be just me but I think that would be interesting.