I was raised to be a gentleman and treat women with the upmost respect and dignity. I have a hard time moving a relationship forward from the "just friends" to something more meaningful. This was a problem for me when I was dating last, and now after a 12 year relationship, it's pretty much impossible for me. Any ladies out there want to fill me in in how they like to see this happen? I don't lack the self confidence, I've just never been a player or had the slick moves... I figured women don't like that anyway, but given my track record, maybe I'm wrong... Any help would be great...

It is very possible you have not found that one you wanted to take that step with.. When you do you will know when it is right.... And will take that step.

12 years and you or her couldn't figure out whats next? I mean were you just friends all that time? I guess I wouldn't call that a "couple" type of a relationship. Thats a friendship. You do not have to be a playa or have slick moves, just be honest and tell the other person how you feel and what you want, from your heart. Mean it and follow through with action.

Lol, no, I'm just getting out of a 12 year marriage... So, I haven't had to worry about if things were clicking with a woman and it was time to move it into a more romantic stage in a long time. Even before my ex wife these things were difficult for me. I could be out with a girl I really liked and would be to worried about, "what if she isn't ready" or "what if she doesn't feel the same way"... And since I grew up with a bit old fashioned values, I think I could have missed out on something meaningful because I was to gun shy to take the chance. So I figured I would post here and get the female perspective.

Glad to give you a laugh. Any whoo, all I can tell you is to just talk to the gal and be honest and get a verbal account as to where things are going according to her. And be honest with your feelings with her about where you want the relationship to go.

Best advise I can give then is just take one day at a time things will happen if they are meant to. There is no secret formula on how to do things or when.....you will know when the time is right....

It can be difficult to drop back into the singledom , especially if someone has met his/her (once) significant one in such circumstances, that are now impossible to re-enact. Such would be high school, college or a previous work place. Especially if you are older now and don't plan to go to school and your job doesn't provide an environment to meet women.
Don't worry, I realized a long time ago, that all (4) of my girlfriends I have met were from either school or work. I neither go to school and since I work alone most of the time, it doesn't provide any chance to meet someone new. Join the boat.