I broke up with the mother of my son she makes me feel like **** because she says im breaking up a family.I was really in love with her but all the **** she put me thru made the love die, so should i have stayed and fake a relationship wit out being in love? or just live my life and be happy,be there for my son financially and spend time with him.

If you do your visits and pay your C/S..thats all you can do,if the love is not there, anymore.JMO

.....coming from a Mom of two.

I would not want someone to stay with me just because we have a kid together. If you aren't happy its a good idea to leave. It will only affect the kids in a neg way if you stay for the wrong reasons

thats what i have told her, i think its better for me to do it now and not 10 years later. that would affect him more if i stay around longer and all of a sudden one day im not living in the same house hold as him.

yeah, the longer you stay the harder everything will be. All you can do is try to be the bigger person. do your half- Dont leave her to raise the kid alone. That may be difficult if she still wants to be with you. Hopefully she can come to terms with it and realize its for the best. Everyone deserves to be happy

she was being a real B!tch about it at first and saying that shes not going let me see him until the court decided, wich is bs because im not refusing to provide for him but i guess its just her being immature.

go to your local Attourney General office to set up visits and C/S, It is better to have in writing and all legal.This is for your benefit also.

It's her being hurt! I am not defending her but I am a single parent myself. Been in enough relationships to be able to put myself in peoples shoes. Please give her some time to come to terms with the situation. She probably thinks your gonna screw her over. And maybe the thought of you having a family with someone else one day is to much for her???

well said.

It took awile for me to be..ok..and independent
and even though you do visits...it is hard raising a child or children 24.7 alone.

It made me stronger though..and alittle mean lol

yeah were in the process of doing all of that.i wish relationships werent so stressful -_-

I agree with 2kids.....get stuff going with the court so you dont have to be threatened by her. Using a child as a pawn between parents is awful.

i understand its all the beginning and she will grow out of it, i just feel like i deserve to be happy and just handle me reponsibilities as a father.

What doesnt kill us makes a stronger!

It made me stronger though..and alittle mean lol

Yes, you deserve to be happy! Dont feel guilty about that. Just know that child should be number one. You are second!!

Me too!! My strong sense of independance makes it difficult to date! I take no ****.

me also...
It feels good to make it on my own.pay my own bills..and not to be dependant on someone else..but grant it..it took a long time to get to this point..and alot of self sacrafice.<dont know if I spelled that right.lol.

I think it makes you appreciate life and everything you have a lot more when you work hard for it. I put my self thru school and just bought my own house. Every goal I set for myself I have achieved. I have many set backs but push thru them. I want someone for my daughter to look up to. I want her to be proud of me. I refuse to ever give up or give in to hard times. can never say life is boring haha

Its nice when you pay the bills and have no one to be dependant on- you get to make the rules!!

so true...lol..