Just wonder what the percentage would be of those who fall faster, and those that don't. I tend to fall faster (and am kinda presently), which has caused hurt in the past, but trying to work on that. What about the rest of you?

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I agree with kc0003. I fall slower. Well, except for that one time...at band camp.

That was a forty foot stumble/fall down a concrete walkway and I tackled a plastic chair at the end of it. I can, (beaming proudly) however, honestly say that I never spilled a drop of either of the beers I was holding.

oh, i didn't realize there was beer involved, that could change the dynamics...

very slowly. Usually when I am just about to get interested in someone, the other has already quit on me.

it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them

This depends.

If you take time to get to know them, with boundaries,
it will be longer before you get attached.

The faster you allow someone in and actively integrate
them into your daily activities and decision making,
then the faster you will get attached.

If you tend to get attached quickly it's important to go slow.


There is a good reason:

A person who comes into your life like whirlwind and is easily and quickly attached is a RED FLAG. They will leave your life just as quickly and possibly without a second thought. You may think they care about you, but chances are they are just happy to not be alone and likely flit to person to person for brief, intense and utterly meaningless relationships. Ones they say mean something.

A true bond takes time to build.

That and steak, I reckon'.

Holy (beep)

i fall pretty slow.....

gotta feel you out.....


gotta hit that spot.....


that throws me over the edge!!!

I hear this one big time, from personal experience, in both being hurt like that recently, and also in the bond I am feeling being formed right now. It didn't seem like it would go this way when I met her, but as time has gone on, it has started to happen. I haven't known her all that long yet per se, and only really started to talk to her more regularly the last week and a half, but in that time I definitely feel we have gotten closer to be sure.

That's a difficult one to answer.

I've only been in love once. I was 17 and it was instantaneous. We spent every available moment together and very quickly got to the stage where we felt we couldn't live without each other.

We were lucky. In between 'raging hormone related activities' we took the time to talk to each other and felt like we really knew each other very well in a short space of time. We stayed together for 34 years.

Now, I'm older and wiser, and in control of my hormones! Things seem to develop a lot more slowly now.

Slowly. And in all honesty, I've never been wildly, stupidly in love. I've cared, but was still detached enough.

and if followed by pie, it's game on!....apparently

(((Lilith))) you've been missed..

I completely agree!!!

Well, almost all my dates end with sex. But, I must admit, I plan things to end this way. If there is no sex, I have no reason to go out with her again and things never get past that.

If you mean love, I fall more slowly.

me and my boyfriend we started out slow and just really got to know each other before any thing really happen, he took me out on a few dates and i could really tell he was the one, i am good at who is right and not just by talking and going out

When I was young, much too quickly.

Now I seem to lose all the interested parties before I can even start to miss them.

As slow or fast as my heart lets me.....

There has been times I fall in-love at first glance and times it took me a few months....It really all depends on the person and the connection that happens between the two.