If you look back 5, 10, 15, 20 years ago, what priorities have changed in regard of making a relationship with someone?

Was there any change?

Do you see yourself being evolved ever since?

Do you see others, like younger generations making similar mistakes you have made?

good question..as soon as Im in a relationship with someone, Ill get back to you....

Being reflective? Not a bad thing I suppose. Of course everybody wishes they did something different. I would love to go back 20 years but if I did I wouldn't know what I know now. Which happens to be a little less than 20 years ago.......

Oh let's see... 20 years ago I was 8 and had a crush on the new kids on the block

Oddly I knew what my priorities were and they never changed. When I relaxed my standards I got hurt. I am sticking to my guns.

All I want is a NO BS relationship.


So where do I find the teeth on a chicken?

I see my niece making the same mistakes I have made. I know better now, but she has to learn on her own. It's hard watching a train wreck knowing your hands are tied.

I used to wonder if I could go back in time, would I really want to change things? I don't think I would. I am who I am now....the good and the bad.

I believe that relationships can be something awesome. I know. I had one once. Do I think I will ever have one again? I doubt it. I have come to the realization that where I am now, it is gonna take one hell of a woman to make me believe it will. Now, do I think it can happen for anyone? Of course I do, and I truly want people who have never had that kind of relationship to have it.

People are inherently good. I believe that everyone wants.....WANTS..to do the right things. But, as we all know, that is easier said than done. People don't talk the way the used to, and maybe some of that blame falls on how we have become a "me" first society. I wish people would stop and look at an elderly couple who have been together for 20, 30 or more years. Still in love, even though they survived all kinds of trials and tribulations. Because when you get down to it, a relationship is all about toughing it out. You tough it out because you love that person more than you ever thought you could.

Anyways, I am babbling now. I guess this is what I have learned over the years. I'll shut up. Peace. Goof out!

Goof-you never cease to amaze me

And I probably just threw people for a loop with that post.

there's been alot of changes...life's done to that me....have experienced loss and heartbreak as well as been downright humbled.

also as the years tack on ...i've learned and have made more peace with myself as to who i am :)

And to add to what yellowrose said, Personally, in the past and now, I don't think I would change anything because all the mistakes and past relationships have taught me things.

There is only one 'relationship' I would have changed. In my junior year, there was a guy that liked me. Great guy, we were becoming very good friends. I didn't know that he was seriously interested in me. He bought me for Christmas a sapphire watch. Because I was a total 'B' to him, he took it back and got me a necklace locket. The only reason I know this is because a friend of mine told me what he orginally got me.

After junior year, he moved away with his parents and I never heard from him since. I still wish today I could find him and tell him I was sorry. Unfortunately, it has been so long now, I only remember his first name. I even thought about taking out a newspaper ad and hoping that he would still be in this area and read it.

Anyways, I think that is the only thing that I would change.

When I was younger, it seemed like it was a lot more important to BE in a relationship. Of course, it was a lot easier to find people to be in relationships WITH, back then, too.



Cumulatively -- over time, my experience was that relationships were almost always more trouble than they were worth --



Evolved? No. More like educated. Educated to the realities of "what's out there" vs. "what I wish was out there."



Like getting involved with the wrong people? I assume that's pretty prevalent, regardless of generation.

Huzzah and well said.

No, I may not have always liked how things turned out, but I wouldn't want them changed. I feel I was careful thinking things out, and truly have no regrets. It was all a learning experience, and I hope over the years, I've wised up. I think I have, but I guess I'll have to wait till I'm in my 90's to really know that.

Well 20 years ago I would be 3 and a half months old. So let me go with what I know now.

Well I truly believe that everything happens for a reason both good and bad. It molds us to who we have become as a person. Goof is right society has become a "ME" society. I have grown up very fast in my life and I am one of the few my age who love to sit and talk to the elderly. I do when I get a chance at my job. I have grown to appreciate manners as there are not many people who use them. I have learned not to judge anyone solely on what they have gone through in their life or who they are as a person. You can dislike someone so much but still find one good thing about them. I learned that from someone who I would never want to speak with. I have learned not to be a hypocrit from someone who is. I could keep babbling but I won't.

I don't think I would change anything about my life. It has made me a very smart and fabulous lady. The only thing I hope for is to find the one I can love unconditionally. Have the 50+ years of growing old together and knowing what it is like to be through the thick and thin together. Losing almost everything and still holding on strong.

Hope you enjoyed my novel.