What do you do to sabotage your own dating life?

Do you choose partners who are emotionally unavailable?

Do you like bad boys/ girls?

Are you a fixer? (you know what I mean, feel the need to help people fix their lives)

Do you like the crazies because they make you feel sane?



Let's face it we all sabotage ourselves in one way or another... maybe we can identify the problem and try to move on to bigger and better things!

BTW for the record I am "chooses partners who are emotionally unavailable"

I think I do this because I am not a very emotional person myself and I tend to relate to these guys better than the sappy/ clingy ones.

I try to not engage in self-defeating behaviors ... since you recognize the ones that work against you, why do they persist ... ?

I'm just looking for someone cool to date 'n bump uglies with ... no drama ...

Most people don't realize these things until it's too late and they are already invested somewhat into the relationship.



That's actually kinda where I'm at ... gotta keep my distance for now.

I am single by choice

sure i go on dates all the time but there

when it comes down to i always pick my friends

why? no commitment no blowing my phone up....but

it's really not even about that ...i guess im just doing me

im living life right now

Kinda hard to 'bump uglies' at a distance ... just sayin' ...

i can't say that i became single by my choice, but i like where i'm at now.
funny how things can suck, unsuck, then suck again so quick...
to much suckyness in the world. but when life hands you lemons, hit the guy next to you with them.

Emotional distance... not getting attached.

I think I am being too picky maybe? That and my financial situation sucks at the moment so that plays havoc on my self worth.

Like Kings_Knight says, NO DRAMA! I so am done with Drama Queens!

Now here in LA I get this a lot. I will be looking a woman right in the eye and I say 'Hi,' nothing more or less. Now how is this for social? They just look at me and walk on by. And what is worst is the looks I get like they are looking down on me!

Now I know I do not dress like Pee Wee Herman! I do not look like Captain Spaulding, I sure am not a Devil's Reject. BUT DAMN! Women here are Fuqued up bitchez, period! The least they can do is say hi back. It isn't like I am running up to them and yelling "Hey Baby wanna ****?" All I do is say hi and see how they react.


The women in Los Angeles just plain are the worst! I do not want a drug addict, alcoholic, emotional wreck for a girl friend becasue that is the only girl I can meet here! I am not fixing anyone. NOPE NOPE NOPE!

I know for a fact it isn't me. The women here are just RUDE and stuck up!!!

I've always had this "rescuer complex" -- I meet someone who needs help, and I get her through the problem, whatever it is. She gets attached and eventually thinks the best way to thank me for my help is by turning me into a goat. I'm not really following the logic there, but that's how it always happens.

Although since I moved to Indianastan, it doesn't happen that way anymore. I just don't ever meet anyone here at all!

Lex, when I went to Indianastan back around June, there were TONS of awesome-lookin' babe-ettes walkin' around ... have you tried hittin' on any of 'em for a hook-up ... ?

'Bumpin' uglies' and 'gettin' attached' is two different worlds that never meet in my universe ...

I never see any around here. Maybe I'm in the wrong part of the state or something. What makes it difficult is I don't know anyone here, so I don't even have the option of meeting someone through friends.

I was in the SE part of Indianapolis - not too far from the 'Circle with the Column' ... and BrownRipple and Nashville had some GAWWWWWW-juss lookin' li'l wimmens ... even in the groceries ... made mah li'l hawt swoon, it did ...

I adore insane women.

I say this often: Dating is simple, most people complicate this for one reason or another. Finding someone that suits you can be a challenge.

I used to be the fixer....I have since learned it's not a good idea.

I think it's easier to choose people we know are not very good for us because then we have something else besides ourselves to blame the "inevitable" failure on.

I used to be a "fixer" but I fight that urge now... I'm not sure what type I go for now b/c it's been a while since I've done it but I'd have to say I did notice it seemed to be the "emotionally unavailable" when I did think about it.. I agree it's easier that way to stay unattached.. I don't blame them for it b/c I made that decision...

I've been left twice for another woman. Not sure what that says.

Disclaimer before the standard carnage

Didn't we have the 'downtown' conversation in Tahoe?