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My particular take on marriage is that it is a bit of a mind fawk. Seems like most married people I know are pretty miserable/ bored. Marriage = you don't have to try anymore? You let yourself go because the other person can't go anywhere? Same ole sex all the time because really that's what you signed up for? There's no clause in a marriage "contract" that says you have to find new and exciting ways to please your spouse. It's not socially acceptable to act certain ways because you're married. Maybe it's just your spouse putting the lock down on you because, simply put, they can.
But my MAIN gripe about marriage is that you are entering into legal contract that could potentially effect you for the rest of your life based on just your feelings at that time. 
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, am I the only one who thinks the way you feel about someone should not be tied to your credit score/ finances/ bank account? When the rest of the world is out getting married and making babies and I will continue to sit in my little corner saying 
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My take is that a lot of people get married for the tax benefits and the appearance they they have success socially.
In regards to what you say, I realize that my own view on marriage is confirmed by your comment. I WANT to get married but only to be eternally engaged...like you say it keeps us trying and the rejection is not as devastating as a surprise divorce. |
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My take is that a lot of people get married for the tax benefits and the appearance they they have success socially. In regards to what you say, I realize that my own view on marriage is confirmed by your comment. I WANT to get married but only to be eternally engaged...like you say it keeps us trying and the rejection is not as devastating as a surprise divorce. people need to be more like wolves, loyal, mate for life, protective and connected to the pack.. 
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My particular take on marriage is that it is a bit of a mind fawk. Seems like most married people I know are pretty miserable/ bored. Marriage = you don't have to try anymore? You let yourself go because the other person can't go anywhere? Same ole sex all the time because really that's what you signed up for? There's no clause in a marriage "contract" that says you have to find new and exciting ways to please your spouse. It's not socially acceptable to act certain ways because you're married. Maybe it's just your spouse putting the lock down on you because, simply put, they can. But my MAIN gripe about marriage is that you are entering into legal contract that could potentially effect you for the rest of your life based on just your feelings at that time.
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, am I the only one who thinks the way you feel about someone should not be tied to your credit score/ finances/ bank account? When the rest of the world is out getting married and making babies and I will continue to sit in my little corner saying
different strokes, for different folks... it just sounds like marriage is not for you is all, I don't think it's right or wrong one way or the other... I think many married people are not happy becuase they do not understand themselves, are not mature enough to evaluate what they really want (as you seem to be able too) or are too busy trying to please everyone else and not being true to who they really are. $.02
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My particular take on marriage is that it is a bit of a mind fawk. Seems like most married people I know are pretty miserable/ bored. Marriage = you don't have to try anymore? You let yourself go because the other person can't go anywhere? Same ole sex all the time because really that's what you signed up for? There's no clause in a marriage "contract" that says you have to find new and exciting ways to please your spouse. It's not socially acceptable to act certain ways because you're married. Maybe it's just your spouse putting the lock down on you because, simply put, they can. But my MAIN gripe about marriage is that you are entering into legal contract that could potentially effect you for the rest of your life based on just your feelings at that time.
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, am I the only one who thinks the way you feel about someone should not be tied to your credit score/ finances/ bank account? When the rest of the world is out getting married and making babies and I will continue to sit in my little corner saying
different strokes, for different folks... it just sounds like marriage is not for you is all, I don't think it's right or wrong one way or the other... I think many married people are not happy becuase they do not understand themselves, are not mature enough to evaluate what they really want (as you seem to be able too) or are too busy trying to please everyone else and not being true to who they really are. $.02
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My particular take on marriage is that it is a bit of a mind fawk. Seems like most married people I know are pretty miserable/ bored. Marriage = you don't have to try anymore? You let yourself go because the other person can't go anywhere? Same ole sex all the time because really that's what you signed up for? There's no clause in a marriage "contract" that says you have to find new and exciting ways to please your spouse. It's not socially acceptable to act certain ways because you're married. Maybe it's just your spouse putting the lock down on you because, simply put, they can. But my MAIN gripe about marriage is that you are entering into legal contract that could potentially effect you for the rest of your life based on just your feelings at that time.
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, am I the only one who thinks the way you feel about someone should not be tied to your credit score/ finances/ bank account? When the rest of the world is out getting married and making babies and I will continue to sit in my little corner saying
Unfortunately, not everybody has the same marriage standards. I would never get married solely based on feelings, I look for character as well. I recognize that it is a legally binding partnership and needs to be well thought out. Sitting back saying 'not for me' is alot better than getting into something that you may regret. People seem to have replaced 'proving themselves' with 'suckered in by love' |
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