Someone you have dated or tried to date and didn't work out trying to get back into your life?

I mean..when you can just feel the desperation..and then let's say it was her (or him) who left you or was her or his decision to leave you in a ditch and now all the sudden re emerges and trying to pick out something from the past to get you going..like "remember when we _____?(insert a past happy moment together).

For me...it doesn't really bother me, I mean I feel nothing but at the same time I feel like, "I guess I'm worth of something if someone trying to patch up (the unpachable) a relationsihp..so I wasn't all that bad that I was made out to be".
It's something to do with the realization that perhaps it's not like a lot better people out there if after years and years someone comes back to me. Maybe I'm not as bad, right? But back then, I was taken for granted or something, being disposable. Yeah and I also feel like saying "I told you so".

If that ever where to happen to me, I have to say thanks but no thanks, I guess it depends on what happen and all.

LOL Not sure why I am even answering this since I have always been single.

None the less that's my 2 cents.

I've got one of those exes, and we've been back and forth for 10 years now. She shows up every time her life is in the toilet and she needs to be rescued again. If I wait awhile, I know she'll be back telling me how much she "needs" me and how she can't live without me.

And why do I put up with this? Because she's the only one who has the intelligence and the creativity to hold my interest. She's the only one who has never tried to domesticate me. And the 6 months here, 8 months there, I get to spend with her at various intervals, are just so much better than the inevitable 3 months of lies and boredom and manipulative goatification attempts I get from everybody else.

Sure, it would be nice to find someone who was like her in the ways that matter, but a little more consistent. But I don't think any such person exists....

We broke up for a reason. I wouldn't be interested in trying again. I don't have any ill will toward exes....just not interested. That bridge is burned.

I make it clear I'm not interested and I wish them luck for the future.

I'm going through that exact thing now. I told him I have no interest in dating him again because he just disappeared the last time and out of nowhere reappeared after ignoring my calls and etc. He still tries to talk to me but I don't look back once someone does me wrong.

An ex is an ex for a reason. No second chances ever.

I feel like this ....


SUCKS TO BE YOU!


Almost every guy I have ever dated or been in a relationship has come back at one point to either try and get me back or tell me they were dumb for letting me go. Cuz they get out into the world of dating after Myka and realize how good they had it

I'm constantly on a rescue mission. Sometimes I feel like the emotional trash can or some hallway with double swing doors both sides. When the **** hits the fan, let's run back to my safety net. It makes me feel like a reusable paper towel. But again, I got no feelings..I feel less towards her than a stranger. And why is that? Because people , who go back to someone to be in some sort of a "safe zone"..totally disregard , that person also "might" have feelings and they aren't just there like a bus stop, to be in until the next bus comes.

Reminds me of Forest Gump and his love "Jeanie". She could have lived a good life, but instead she kept running around and ruining herself..eventually catching AIDS and die. And she was generally unhappy throughout her life..and kept ignoring the person who was there since the beginning.

It's called "Captain Save-A-Ho" Syndrome..... you can't save them from themselves.

I feel like WTF? I wasn't good enough then and now what? Suddenly your interested after all this time?


Yeah, right!





Moving on now!!!




Seriously, When someone tries to shoot down my aeroplane I just fly to where there is no Anti Aircraft. Why would I fly back to hostile territory?

go out, shop around a bit until you find a hooker with a std that can be cured. sleep with her and catch the ooey gooey.

then date the one trying to get back in your life at least for just one night. pass on the ooey gooey. then just completely shut her out of your life. until you get a message or emails stating she has mushrooms growing from a certain area. then respond with a school girl giggle and just keep her out of your life.

WOW! HARSH AND TWISTED!

dont bother as that has happened to me before

My ex has been back and forward between wifes and girlfriends.Why do I allow this because I was a fool,who was still in love with him. But then I could have had him back,It hit me,I didn't really want him back,the trust was gone,I wanted my husband but he was gone. This man was a stranger..

It really depends

why the breakup

how long we were apart

did we grow and mature since then

depends on alot of things really


If it was my ex husband I'd say no. But for a personal reason- not cause he was a bad husband or father

in another case I asked for a reconciliation after a period of anger and the man was mature enough to understand

so it depends on sooo many factors!

Sounds an awful lot like one of the exes I was with. My first ex actually. And in the past when he reappeared, I seemed to have taken him back (I know, I was weak at the time.) But now that he has reappeared and is trying to get back with me for the third time, now that I have someone who is worth giving a chance, but even if I haven't found someone worth giving a chance, I would never take him back, he's broken my heart, one too many times by him, and I don't need to give him another shot, even if he is telling me he'll change, that this time it will actually work out, and even if he is offering me to move in with him. I really don't need him. True, a small part of me still loves him, but the smarter part of me knows that I deserve better and knows that I do not need another disappointment from the same person.

yes very true

I feel...annoyed. Because usually I'm pretty damn clear about why it's over, how I feel and what's going to happen.

If I've told him to keep in touch that's one thing, but if I didn't want that happening I'd let him know. And them coming around again just gets annoying and sad (a bit).

If an ex came to me and tried to get back? I would not even second guess the relationship and give it another chance!! Obviously it didn't work the first time and it sure wouldn't work the 2nd time!! I keep looking forward for a reason.