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Topic: Sometimes you just think
Atlantis75 Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581	Tue 07/27/10 07:48 PM
..that you are seeing someone? Or..you are seeing someone but you aren't entirely sure? And you aren't convinced, that's the problem. And he or she did not convince you. You got a gut feeling of something not right..you should probably listen to it..it's the first red flag. It's a horrible place to be, isn't it?

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Tue 07/27/10 08:40 PM
Sure is matter of fact just got out of one of those type of issues.... Way too many red flags for me so I had to back out gently and let them know it just was not there for me..... It is not a easy thing to do at times... But no sense in leading someone on to believing there is more there then there really is....

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Tue 07/27/10 08:42 PM
Sure is matter of fact just got out of one of those type of issues.... Way too many red flags for me so I had to back out gently and let them know it just was not there for me..... It is not a easy thing to do at times... But no sense in leading someone on to believing there is more there then there really is.... Amen.

RoamingOrator Joined Fri 07/20/07 Posts: 4943	Tue 07/27/10 09:00 PM
"Don't think, it can only hurt the team." Crash Davis - Bull Durham

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Tue 07/27/10 11:12 PM
..that you are seeing someone? Or..you are seeing someone but you aren't entirely sure? And you aren't convinced, that's the problem. And he or she did not convince you. You got a gut feeling of something not right..you should probably listen to it..it's the first red flag. It's a horrible place to be, isn't it? You already know something's wrong at that point. The next question would be how long will it take for any remaining denial to vanish. There are much worse things than being alone.

misterfreeze Joined Fri 06/25/10 Posts: 252	Tue 07/27/10 11:30 PM
Seriously my man, Xanax, wine, tequila something to slow your brain down. Your so over whelming with your thoughts. Your killing yourself with a empty revolver. you just keep pulling the trigger until the clicking drives you mad and you jump through a window. Who cares my man? Get drunk, go to Taco Bell next night repeat and continue until before you know it. You know mass women from bars. Plus you don't have to keep this Joe Vs. The Volcano braincloud, that you have going that's going to cause you to sacrifice yourself to a angry volcano..lol Just relax and have fun. Best advice ever. Don't ask questions and you don't have to worry about answers.

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Tue 07/27/10 11:54 PM
Your first intuition is normally right, so go with it.

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Wed 07/28/10 05:39 AM
^^^i agree trust it!!

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 07/28/10 06:02 AM
..that you are seeing someone? Or..you are seeing someone but you aren't entirely sure? And you aren't convinced, that's the problem. And he or she did not convince you. You got a gut feeling of something not right..you should probably listen to it..it's the first red flag. It's a horrible place to be, isn't it? Yep.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Wed 07/28/10 06:07 AM
..that you are seeing someone? Or..you are seeing someone but you aren't entirely sure? And you aren't convinced, that's the problem. And he or she did not convince you. You got a gut feeling of something not right..you should probably listen to it..it's the first red flag. It's a horrible place to be, isn't it? Yep.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 07/28/10 06:11 AM
Thinking too much sucks! Sometimes its hard to know if you are fighting the current or seeing red flags.

RoamingOrator Joined Fri 07/20/07 Posts: 4943	Wed 07/28/10 06:12 AM
I don't know, if I skipped out on the first red flag, I'd of missed some of the most wonderful experiences. Sure they were accompanied with me feeling like an idiot, but when isn't that the case? At least those times I had an excuse.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Wed 07/28/10 06:15 AM
Nothing wrong with the 'gut feeling' and following it. It happens for a reason and will never stear us in the wrong direction. It's the thoughts and logic that confuse us..intuition never will if we trust it.

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Wed 07/28/10 06:17 AM
Yea I had to learn that Now I have it really finely tuned and I listen to it like it's my best girlfreinds!!!

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Wed 07/28/10 06:27 AM
Have'nt been in that position to say for a longtime but I always trust my gut.I will never get burned again!

agbbieannie Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 942	Wed 07/28/10 07:14 AM
green flag is go : ) yellow is caution. checked flag and then the red one. You are warned and then need to retreat and plan the next event. use caution if 3 flags go, up your sunk. Move on alone is not so bad if your happy. : ) having someone the share your life is great But if there are too many storms, time to head to safer ground. : )

MiVidaLoca Joined Mon 09/21/09 Posts: 909	Wed 07/28/10 08:37 AM
Bail, Bounce , Flee in Terror...........just listen to the little voice, there's a reason it's there.

Rondoobie Joined Wed 05/26/10 Posts: 578	Wed 07/28/10 09:28 AM
I have to agree, no better advice than to listen to your own gut feelings. Sounds like there isn't much to leave behind if you are questioning if it's even a relationship at all. Move on with confidence and relief, you're probably dodging a bullet.