I'd love to know what women think and how to influence someone in a positive way, after a date or a first time meeting.

There is this waiting game that goes on..and the feeling of uncertainty.

Let's say, if you really like the person you just went out to a date, but it seems unclear what the other side thinks of you..it could make you have various conflicts in your mind.

"Did she like me?"
"She seemed happy and good, but was it just the mood set, did I have any role in it?"

And then when the date is over and you go home, your brain starts to tick and you aren't sure if you should say anything else beside, that you felt good and would like to be together again.

So anyway, I don't wish around like that, but I have already made the next move, so it's not "It would be great" but instead it's "So when are you free again and next time we will go see this and do that".

So I'm not only wishing, but when I like someone I just say it out, that I am already making the next meeting and now it will just depend on you if you want to go along with it or not.

Is that being pushy or do women like that sort of a mentailty? Or would it be just better off "wishing" things instead of stating it, that "I want to have this happen again so here is my plan".

Does that scare women or attracts, I have no idea, but the worst part of this all is the waiting game and see what she will say about it.

I think it takes a certain amount of balls for women to say either "yes" or "no", and I never like the "maybe"..because that means, she is not sure if she would want to go on another date with me, or perhpas I'm scaring her with my straightorwardness, or maybe now she is just not sure about the whole thing?

Thinking about all this could be mind bending and also concerned..or even the thought comes up and I tell myself "Is it really worth to put this much energy into this very very early relationship, I might gonna get myself hurt again if things just won't work out. "

So anyway..yes, this waiting game is the worst part of it. It's just like when you are watching the lottery numbers pulled and you either gonna jump from joy and your life changes, or you gonna throw away your ticket and you may just gonna stop buying lottery tickets forever.

I've always just kept it casual. Walk her to her door. If the date was fun I would usually say something like "that was fun." Give a small fake hug. I'm not kissing on the 1st date chick could have herpes crawling outta her @ss all over her body..yuck

Then I say "Hey you have my card. If you want to do this again, you have my info. If not use it as a book mark." Then I walk away. turn around half way and say "G'night" then keep walking.


Or you could go this route...

"I said, "Do you love me?" and she said, "No, but that's a really nice ski mask."

Myself I don't like the waiting game from either side. If your into them or want to get to know them then do so if not then move on.

If I go out with a guy and I enjoyed it and he ask me out again, my response is where and when I'm game.

To me if they are not really into you they will put you off. Don't let them leave you hanging if that is the game they want to play then bet them at their own game......