I feel like I'm always having to pursue the guy I want instead of him picking me... what's up with that? Why do I have to get the ball rolling? If you're interested then why not just make it known?

Guys - need to know whats going on up there in those noggins of yours.

do what I do and club them....cave woman style

I dont quite agree with that. To be honest, I see it fairly the other way around more often than anything. I mean I have pursued girls really often and most of the time they just dont get the hint or just dont try overall. Could be the type of guy your pursuing as well, some guys are just not open.

Well I'm talking about me personally, I know I'm a bit different

If you were interested in a girl would you wait for signs from her to let her know?

No, If I am interested in somone. I give them small bred crumbs and wait for a reaction. If there interested they will react one way and if they arent....well they will act another. If I get no response, then I become a little more direct but try not to enter a territory I dont belong in , because intrusion can potentially even damage all luck or even friendship.

Ugh the "Friend Zone" my most favorite place in the entire universe

Let him know you are interested, then let him make a move.

"So...when are we going out to......?"

"When are you going to come and visit me?

"I really like Thai food and there is a great place on 3rd street, we should go there for lunch"


If he doesn't get it, he doesn't get it.

It won't make you look desperate, or needy....and it's a little easier if he says No.

Oh they get it once I make the first move but why do I have to?

It doesn't matter why.

breadcrumbs....they will get you birds, flighty birds, ducks at best..

to have a shot at the swan, better give her the whole loaf of bread..

roko

p.s. -- and handing to her with arms down, armpits not showing, won't hurt either

I hear ya there. I'm always in that place...stupid me for being so awesome guys think I'm a wicked cool chick. But then don't wanna make whoopie

Myka luv you girl For reals

Your beautiful, smart, got a little devil in you and so sexy. If you are entering his domain even in the written format, ie: this place, he should get it...99% of the men in here would get it and we would more than likely be able to figure who the lucky man was.... But his loss if he can't or won't move toward you....What a shame.

Don't chase, it does not fit you well.....Still love your hair

Look everyone gets put into the friend zone, noone likes it...especially if they are pursueing for more. The best chance at it is to adapt and overcome. In relationships in the past, I have been known to come up directly and just be real with the person, so they understand I am interested.


Somtimes youre just not gonna be happy with the awnser you recieve depending on if they share similar feelings or willing to give it a try.

Ok riddle me this guys.... what does friends with benefits mean to you? I understand what it MEANS I just wanna know whats going on in your heads if you're in a situation like that?

Depends on why the person entered the relationship in the first place?

If they just wanted to have sex. Nothing but lustful thoughts I suppose.

If they wanted a relationship? Probably thoughts on how to shift the relationship to the other direction.

Personally , I wouldnt want to be in that situation but at same time...given the right circumstances and situation idk military lifestyle with constant moving....those relationships seem to be a biggy.

Some of us guys have unresolved issues that have to be worked through first. We didn't realize until our exes pointed them out to us. And we were so pissed off at her because we just couldn't handle the truth. Of course, if she would have been a better mind reader then she would have known that instead of blaming all our faults on us. Growing up in public can be embarrassing and the least she could have done is to have warned us of that before we went and made an *** out of ourselves. So we have learned to do the best we can and we see this lady that we really like and she acts like the feelings are reciprocated. But then we find she has a kid who we might kind of like, too but we find we become second fiddle to this kid. So we try to make friends with the kid and it becomes like maybe the kid will put in a good word for us with the mom. And it is like maybe the rook will take the queen for us since we have trouble getting the queen all by ourselves. Deep, huh? Maybe it just me.

FWBs will listen to you while your bumping uglies with them and they know what you like and don't like,but you don't want a fulltime relationship with them.....hmmmm thats kind of messed up it's like thats what most want in a relationship

Perhaps they are intimidated and don't want their ego crushed. An ego is a fragile thing.

Wise beyond your years Brother. Thanks for serving, there is no deed as noble.

Myka, myka, myka......What guy in his right mind is going to try to explain the "friends with benefits"??? You started with asking about...always having to pursue the guy, and...Why do I have to get the ball rolling?

If a man is asking about the FWB thingy, why on earth would you or any woman persue THAT? You can get "benefits" any time you want.....But sweet woman, a friend is too precious to add the benefits package to a relationship.....That stuff called FWB is only made up in the last few years to take the place of non-commited sex.......Sex is great, friends are better, they last longer.

Now maybe I am more confussed.

My noggin is a scary place. I try not to go up there alone. I am glad that I have friends now.