I know what you mean Gypsy, paranoid myself. Worked in the prison
system for 17 years, read and typed stuff would make you sick. Am
beyond overprotective with my "babies." Just like to see them now and
then because I can't in real life they are so far away. Mess with them
and you will find out what a really mad "mama grizzly" is like. Would
not be a pretty sight.

Uncontrollable walking allover the Andes, hmmmm, Lex, any good looking
guys up there??? Could be okay, maybe. But probably have some really
nasty bugs and snakes, and probably malaria and other nasty diseases.
Maybe getting old isn't so bad?????

Bored -- I've tried the "I'm not having kids" line (because I really and
truly am not), but all that ever seems to do is generate their list of
5649 reasons why I SHOULD. It's like people cannot accept the idea that
you should be able to make that decision for yourself.

These are the same people who, any other time, are complaining to me
that "I can't go to a nice restaurant anymore because of my kids" or "I
can't afford the car I want because of the kids." I have chosen to
avoid the WHOLE PROCESS -- because I know I would not make a good parent
-- so why turn myself into a reproductive unit just because other people
think that's what you're "supposed" to do??

There are plenty of fine parents out there, and more power to them. But
I have seen a whole lot of bad ones, and I have seen a whole lot of
screwed-up kids who spent their lives trying to compensate for that. I
don't want to contribute to anyone's misery (other than my ex-wife and
her family) any more than I already do, anyway....

I admire you for being able to make that decision Lex. Have known many
people in my professional life who knew right away they had no desire to
have kids and didn't, wanted to have a career, and devote their lives to
it, and travel, nice homes, cars, and having the freedom to do what they
want. And that is exactly what they did.

They never regretted their decisions that I know of either. You are
right about the wrong people having kids, I type notes on them every
day. Those poor kids, could take a baseball bats to their parents.

lex-
weird is good

I think a lot of it is experience -- my parents never should have had
kids, they only did it reflexively, because they grew up in an
environment where that was simply "expected," it's what everybody did
and what everybody was "supposed" to do.

And they had no aptitude for it at all.

I got out of there when I was 15. My brother stayed a lot longer and he
is screwed up beyond belief. So I've seen what bad parenting can do. I
see that pretty much the same way I see alcohol -- all it does is
destroy lives. I want no part of it.

Lex you're always so honest and I enjoyed your entire post.

"Bored -- I've tried the "I'm not having kids" line (because I really
and truly am not), but all that ever seems to do is generate their list
of 5649 reasons why I SHOULD. It's like people cannot accept the idea
that you should be able to make that decision for yourself."



Yeh that does lead to a list of reasons why.
They won't take "no: for an answer or accept that but rather persuade
you which turns the evening annoying.

lmao, i hate being told i'm good breeding stock, like i'm a freakin
horse or something.

hmm for some reason men think its a compliment to look at my breasts and
say Wow those are big jugs for a woman your size.....I think that all
women should learn how to be ventriqulist so that the boobs can talk
back to them, and say wow what a little head you have for a man your
size.......

Sweetiepie,you need to stay outof theOzarkmountains LOL

lol, wolf, believe me, i try!!!

LOL sweet