I don't know what's wrong with my profile but I'm not getting close to any profile traffic and no messages. What am I doing wrong? Am I boring, ugly? Someone help me out here.

Welcome to Mingle

Right off the bat - your main pic is too dark. Your face is not visible and women might be hesitant to open the profile of someone who is not noticeable.

Need to be more positive in your profile message. Saying kids are afraid of you scares the single mothers. Find some positive characteristics. Just remind yourself to be yourself. Don't guess what they might want to hear. There is alot of men on here that are players. Sale yourself; be authentic and real. Best of luck. It does work here. I dated and talked online in the last two years close to 50 women on here and had a long distant relationship for close to a year with a woman in California.

Totally agree about the single mom comment .. geesh who'd wanna roll with that?


OP .. good luck!

Ummmm is the '25' correct? Not to be offensive, but you look a little older

Just sayin .......

Be surprised if he really isn't. See alot of people that don't look their age. I'm old and know it. hehe

The ones above me have said many of my thoughts,,so only will add that you could write some more positive words about you in your profile and add some more pics,,
as to being emailed,,MANY FIRST HAVE TO KNOW YOUR HERE.
So post a bunch and be SEEN,,and also much of the steps to someone else is BY YOU,,contacting THEM by emails to let them know YOU find them cute...Good luck here and I hope you make some good friends..

Your photo is in fact, too dark. Also, there are three people visible in that photo. Which one are you?

You should edit your about you section. Maybe put a sample of your writing up. Some ladies cream for that crap.

I think your profile is great. I'd answer you. And your picture is smashing.

One thing: Are you a man or a woman? It's hard to say from here.

But I guess the main thing is that you're a well-respected member of your church.

I would like to see that beautiful face up a little closer myself.

The reason you don't see a lot of traffic on your profile is because many of us women have discovered stealth mode. heheheheh

No one will come to your profile until you not go, better to search say some words even simple Hi, Leave messages, Always respect others, and join community or any other activities in forms, how many you involve your self here or anywhere in the society, people will know you and one day they'll knock you door...