A friend talked about his kid today. I realized Gary, my son would
have been 24 on the first. He died from a fatal case of hide and seek
with my ex's boyfriend. He was onlya toddler.

Am I wrong to feel after this long?

I don't think so...everyone is different of course, but I think it is
perfectly normal to still ache. I am sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

Thank you V-lee.The conversation caught me off stride. Thanx for the
hug!

to morn is an on going thing

as long as you don't dwell on it

it is nothing to be concerned about

The conversation just caught me off stride. Say hello to mr. Water!

Why would it be wrong to feel this way after so long??? Your son was a
great part of you, so I see nothing wrong, its just part of being a
loving Daddy. So sorry for your loss Polson

I light the candle every year. Not just for Gary, but the others too.

I am so sorry for your loss, how horrible. Anniversary dates are
especially hard, and holidays too.

Your feelings are totally understandable and will be with you for the
rest of your life. If there is anything I can do to help, let me know.
Take care my friend.

You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel the loss. Hugs.

Poison --

Frankly, I would be a lot more concerned if you DIDN'T feel something --
regardless of how long it's been.

He was a part of you, and that never goes away. Or, at least in my
opinion, it never should go away. He impacted on your life, for the
short time he was here; as you impacted on his. How do you let go of
that, how could anyone just forget? I don't think a caring, feeling
human being ever could.

All this tells me about you is that you have a good heart, and memories,
and regrets about what might have been. It's painful, but it shows who
you are, and it says a lot about what is truly important to you.

Wrong to feel after this long? No -- you should be proud that you
haven't blocked those feelings, that you still allow yourself to
recognize them and be aware of what they mean.

Gary would not want you to be paralyzed with grief, I'm sure -- but he
would still want to be remembered, he would still want you to cherish
his memory. And you are doing that. And you are sharing his memory
with us.

How can that be wrong?

"A parent was never meant to outlive their children."
It does happen, but this one had to be hard.
Prayers for you both.