Then it's possible they are just very insecure about meeting in person and it really has nothing to do with you.

ha ha to me that is plain gross ,, however it doesnt always come out before you meet them. sure maybe they seemed so interesting beforehand.. and like you i would have to have some kind of interest before i met.. but i do like to have friends of both sexes as well.. however if i went and met someone that i only know i was interested in friends only they would know that before i met them... now if i am interested in more.. i will let them know i first meet as friends.. and expect no more than that but they do know i have interest in more than that but you never know till you meet in person...and that is where a second date comes in.. to get to know them better if for a friend or for a possible liking each other for more..

Also, sometimes people have a part of their personality that they aren't so forthcoming about for whatever reason. Could be that they see a compatibility issue that you don't because they don't show you this side of their personality.

Just for the record...any time I come up with some bitchy topic, it has to do with something that I had a "close encounter" with someone,

-which was close to be a date but didn't happen for a reason I don't know,
or

-Was a date and for unexplained and unknown reasons it didn't go anywhere from there.

So just keep that in mind..if I'm PMS-ing , than there was a woman involved in it.

to me this would fit in the compatible stage.. will it be more than friends who knows.. but still id make it shorter of a date at first so they dont go into it feeling "stuck" and nor are you "stuck"

I feel the same way. I like to date when I actually think I might be into the person. I don't date just for the sake of going out on dates.

maybe you attract the type i do! people that dont really want to meet but just want all the attention to boost their ego...

I once let out a monster of a (soda induced) burp while hanging out with my first BF in high school. I will never forget the look on his face or my embarrassment after I did it

So you are expecting women to fly to your state & give you some nookie & leave, well it does happen

Not really...I got nothing going on on this site..save a few lovely ladies who'd be worth to meet, I'm talking about women 20 min. away from me.

I find it's becoming more common for people looking for casual dating & hook ups. I've gone on a bunch of dates from another site & there are some real freaks out there , it's a process weeding through the weirdos.

Which is why me on POF only lasted one day.... way to many freaks emailed me all at once and I bailed

the real freaks are ruining my chances.

wow!! perfect example of how a man you have been talking to should approach a woman for a first meeting.... from a different site..<not a dating one>

Hi Debra, so when are we meeting for some coffee? I'm busy for a few days but be fun to joke around over coffee. Nothing serious just saying meeting and chilling.

my reply.....
how about next week sometime? i'm up for it.. where and when?



who knows but approaches are definitely an important factor.. since put this way in words and i have no clue what he looks like.. only expecting to be friends... this is what i'm talking about...

I've found theres a huge difference between the different dating sites out there.... you get a different "type" from site to site. I did match and eharmony 1 month free trials a few years ago. Got nothing from eharmony, they have an insanely lengthy process to even freakin EMAIL someone. Match might as well have been adultfriendfinder, the guys just wanted to hook up. POF had a LOT of locals, all creepy and weird. Mingle is great for me, I love being able to interact with everyone and don't care if I get dates from here or not.

POF is like shopping in a dumpster, chances are slim that someone threw something good away

I like first dates where you meet someone somewhere, you both have a car, you're not 'stuck' but somewhere fun...or even in a group for the first meet, amusement parks I think are awesome...fun rides, and you can see if you can hold a conversation while in line. Arcades are fun too. Anywhere where it takes the pressure off

How about reptile pet stores and bar/arcades?

That's pretty much like me! Sometimes it makes me wonder if I was asking too much or not enough?

And I'm talking about people who live less than 30 min. away from me, so it's not like a huge committment to make and since it's a small town, there is a chance we know people we both know and places we both go etc etc..

so ..I ....don't...know...anymore.

According to Lori, I'm a scary person. Last time I went out at night to a bar, everybody thought I was a cop.

see atlantis what i did was join a local singles group.. its not a dating site.. but where singles actually get out and meet each others in groups in person.... well i havent been able to attend anything yet but at least you are gonna pull in a different type of crowd of people who actually do want to meet other singles..<perhaps if they fear a one on one meeting, any are open to the group things at least you have a chance at the opportunity of meeting others in person> as friends or possibilities...im open minded to all options... and this is how i started talking to this guy about a month ago.... he is a member of this singles group... might i suggest looking for one in your area?