Like it's been stated above...true, good friends who have our best interest at heart can be hard to come by. I wouldn't want to risk the friendship.. at the same everything starts with friendship, or should.
A feeling can take time to grow for some of us. If your not at all attracted to him and you have a physical desire he isn't able to fill....well that's a huge potential problem later.

I've read your original post as well as those after. And here is my two cents.

First, you need to figure out what you're looking for in/out of a relationship. I know that sounds trite, but when you think about it it's not. Does the man meet your needs, emotionally, physically, intellectually etc... If not, no matter how much time you invest it's not going to work!

Second, put the past in the past. Each relationship is a learning experience. We have all been hurt or hurt someone in our relationships. But take what was good i.e. if they made you laugh, or made you feel like you were beautiful, or were encouraging, whatever was positive and work on that. Look for partners that generate those same feelings. Any negative feeling that they generated, were theirs to own. People that feel bad about themselves want others to feel bad too.

And last, dating is like shopping. We are trying on different people to see if they fit. Sometimes they do, others well, you know. And you don't buy something that doesn't fit just because it's pretty.

My ex-husband married me because he didn't know what else to do. Personally, I wish he would have told me he was confused and not sure if he loved me. It would have saved us both a lot of anger and tears. Good luck to you