I was dating this really nice and sweet guy for like 2 months ...I got to know alot of his friends and he knows mine. Everything seemed to be going great until like a few weeks ago he started to kind of be a little awkward with me. He eventually told me that his ex-gf came to visit him, and he realized that he still liked her and he thought it would be unfair of him to hang out/date me while he is still confused. He still wants to be friends though. Is it just a stupid excuse? Should I still take the effort to be friends with him, or just ignore it and get over it?

If I were you I'd just walk away. I don't have alot of patience tho

Do you want to be the back up GF? Then stay with the guy and be second fiddle. Don't you deserve to be numero uno with a guy? Friends, shmends...move on.

He is not over his ex and he has a rocky history with the ex so keeping you on a string will be pretty handy for him.

Best to let him alone for real so he can work on his relationship with the ex with everything and if it is meant to be with you then later down the road you two will meet again.

My best advice.

Wow....What to say to that.
Wouldn't being his friend make things more awkward between you two? I say give him time while he is confused and be casual until he knows what he wants~JMO

When they say what?

At least he was being honest with you. I commend him for that. If it were me I'd still try to remain friends. At the same time be aware nothing may happen between you and him. But you never know and time will tell.

Does the ex-gf have a new bf or seeing anyone? The one you like broke up with the ex probably for a good reason. He may remember the reasons eventually.

I'd say be friends with him but don't prevent yourself from meeting new men and dating them.

tell him to HIT the Road, He doesn't sound very nice to me. JMO

I don't know if the ex has a new partner. But when I talked to the guy I dated..he told me they "weren't going to get back together, because it would not work out." Maybe she dumped him?

You were not friend before the potential romance which means you probably do not have the foundation for remaining friends now. You have nothing investing in this person.

This is a typical case of "drama". RUN!

When I suggested to remain friends I didn't mean you should be calling him or expecting anything from him. It is possible for opposite sexes to be friends.

Your 18 and this is just trama....drama.....Relax, there are so many, many more boys out there for you. Get on with it....Welcome to the site and have fun here and join in the other forums.....Play and have fun....

If it were me i would tell him to enjoy his x because i am never second best!! I have been down that road once, NEVER AGAIN!!

That was my next thought. There are too many other people who are not latently harmful to her emotional health. Why waste one's time on this situation?

Are we assuming things? Dumped him? Maybe he left her for good reasons.

MMmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmelody, great minds think alike.

You're eighteen??

Dump him and move on.

If a person doesn't call their friends then they are not friends. Friends are people you surround yourself with for the sake of happiness, comradery, and support; otherwise, people are just acquaintances and not called "friends".

It’s better to have a small group of close friends than to have a bunch of “people” in your life that don’t have your best interest at heart. That is how the roller coaster of life starts - and the "emo" syndrome takes effect!

Besides, two-months of dating - as young as 18 years old - don't constitute a "relationship" or him as being an ex. 2 months is nothing and there is no substance developed.

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I get the point :)!!!!
thanks for the help..just needed to hear it from a few people, and make sure I'm doing the right thing :D

What was the reason he gave for the ex visitig him?? Why would an ex do that? Things to think about OP.