Ghee, I don't know what I was thinking yesterday. Went into my local forum and posted an idea about some of us getting together and go rummaging together. Since a lot of people enjoy this during the summer. Not even 1 darn person replied, but yet everybody seems to complaint that they are bored, have nothing to do or anyone to do it with. You know, I "actually thought" people would like the idea of simply meeting somewhere and aimlessly drive around for a couple of hours going from sale to sale. And there wouldn't be any pressure like when you go out on a 1st date. Even suggested we could carpool if necessary. I really am disappointed. I've read in so many profiles "Don't do bars", ok, here would have been something fun to do with a bunch of people. Sure, I enjoy talking to people from across the country, but it's not like they and I could go and do something together.
Since I am fairly new in this, can anyone give me some suggestions how to motivate people to get together and have some fun without the pressure of it being a date? I sure would appreciate it. And who knows, maybe someone would hook up. I am open for suggestions.
Anita

Well, I do not have a suggestion for you other than this... Most non date type meets ( group gatherings ) have been planned months in advance. And while I would personally jump at the chance to do something like attacking rummage sales, you have to remember that most folks on dating sites are not on line every day. Now there are a few exceptions, but they probably live in Timbuktu. Give it sometime and/or plan something for July and keep bumping it to the top of the thread. Good luck.

I have organized two meetings for people on here. There is generally a lot of people that say they will come but don't. Which is often the same as real life.

I would suggest if you want to meet people, get to know people and then organize smaller groups to meet of people that you have gotten to know. Those seem to be more sucessful meets.

Yeah, I know about the big get togethers being planned months in advance, but I simply suggested something that a lot of people put on their profile that they do. And we both know just how many people keep complaining about "There is nothng to do" or "I am always alone with nothing to do", here would have been something to do. Yet, seems they like the complaining better then the actual doing something. It's the same with other things in our regional forum. Nobody talks. And oh yeah, I do have one HUGE question. Why do so many guys say that us women don't reply to them? that is not true about all of us. What about when we reply and see that even by the next day he has not checked his mail? Too many people making too many generalizations.
Sorry, I know that was off topic. Guess I'll spent yet another saturday am at home, cause it is boring to drive around alone. Think I'll take a nap. See ya all later and thanks for your reply.
Anita

There will always be generalizations....

but when they email someone that hasn't been on in over a month... or even over four days and they expect a response. I think most of those complaints come from individuals that mass mail people.... expecting to find someone right away.

Sorry that you efforts were discouraging.... don't give up! Interacting on the forums is a good way to get to know people.... and often local people lurk and don't post, but you will get recognized.

My suggestion is rather than sit home by yourself on the weekend, go rummaging and talk to people who are at the sales. Start up a conversation about something there. You may make a friend who enjoys doing the same thing you do on a Saturday morning and then you are no longer doing it alone. There just might be someone at one of the sales that wishes they had someone to hang around with.

Hummmmm we have had several get togethers within the Texas area. What I did was create a thread then answering others threads as well directing them to join the thread I started finally other members did the same thing.... So far we have had a BBQ and several times a few all met up at and Applebee's for appetizers and a few drinks had some great conversations as well. Then few of us meet up in Luchenbach had a great time and now have plans to meet up in Galveston as well in a couple of weeks....

It takes time to get the thread started and then make suggestions to meet up and do different things.

So all I can suggest is patience & determination as well sooner or later it will happen......

Mine started off with a BBQ at my house and it has went from there. Did it during the day everyone pitched in and told them to BYOB for those that wanted to drink a few..... We had a blast.......