So this girl I know tells me about this site she's on, and says I should try it. Well, I'm suggestible and not too bright, so I did.

And they have this feature, like a lot of sites do, where it tells you who looked at your profile and who likes you and who had creamed corn for dinner and so on.

And if they REALLY like you, they can send you a "gift," which is another way of saying they can send you a pre-designed message that has all the originality of a three-story building, which may in fact have been original at one time but is hardly so anymore.

The problem is -- and notice that there's ALWAYS a problem, otherwise I wouldn't be writing about it -- there is no correlation whatsoever between the profiles I'm looking at and the ones who are looking at me. None whatsoever.

If you drew a Venn diagram (I'm not sure what that it, but I like saying it), there would be no points of intersection. It would be like Earth and Neptune. You can't even really build a good bridge between the two because the orbital movements would keep messing it up.

Like pretty much everything else that involves women, I find this puzzling. I am most assuredly not trying to be noticed by 48-year-old women with 3 kids who live in Germany. There are so many things wrong with that whole concept that not even Luther Burbank could fix it.

See, on Mingle, I can console myself by thinking that the people I like ARE looking at my profile; they're just doing it in Stealth Mode. All of them. Even the ones who just signed up and don't even know what Stealth Mode is yet.

But these other sites don't even HAVE Stealth Mode (or if they do, it's REALLY Stealth because not even the users are aware of it).

I ask myself "What am I doing wrong?" (I ask myself because if I ask anyone else, they usually have 14 hours worth of responses.)

Well, OK, for one thing, I'm actually looking for a compatible person on a dating site. That's just insanity. Well, not for everybody. I know people who have actually found someone good on a dating site. Not me. I find arsonists and phony bank tellers and lazy newspaper columnists and phony kidnap victims. It's interesting, sure, but it doesn't really match up well with the whole intention for being on a dating site in the first place.

So I guess I will just have to sit back and wait for someone good to read one of my b ooks and THEN contact me....!

I think your right. Dating sites are a waste of time.......

Well, they work for some people.

I think that, once you've been tarred by eHarmony with the "Unmatchable" epithet, you're pretty much screwed though. Those guys are NEVER wrong.

If you'd rather be lonely and keep your somewhat large ego (no offense) intact, keep being picky...

If you'd rather have someone to share your life with start compromising... maybe somewhere in between.


The choice is yours... nobody's perfect!

I don't know.... I didn't like the money I wasted on Eharm.

And as for that 'other' dating site... I was on it... but not anymore after entering a relationship.... but yes the views are even more random than here! (And I think I put too many '...' in that last run-on sentence!)

Sounds like you have met some pretty interesting people, Lex. Might not be a bad idea to keep working in the same direction. You know what they say about variety!

I'd rather be lonely than be with anyone like the ones I've been with before....and that's the whole problem. There just doesn't seem to be anybody who ISN'T like everyone else I've been with already....

And I'm OK with that. It just surprises me a little.

I had a 94-word sentence in my first book -- I think you're safe.......................................................

No wonder, I have only read a few chapters of the first book!

I agree!

I was on Yahoo for a while and after 1 year, I got a note that "someone has looked at your profile".

1 in 1 year "looked" at my profile, LOL! Not trying to bring up statistics, but if I'd go by that, perhaps someone would send me a message within 40 years if I'm lucky.

Oh yeah, and almost forgot, Yahoo charges you to find out who looked at your profile. So I clicked and said "in order to see who were looking at your profile, you must be a premier member, click here and enter your credit car information to sign up to email other members and meet singles in your area!"

Yeah, "interesting" in a sort of textbook-case-history sense! Not so much as prospective relationship material, though....

And you're right about variety -- but, beneath all of the superficial, outward weirdness of the people I met from various dating sites, they all essentially wanted to goatify me regardless....so still no variety of the type I would have hoped for....!

The most important thing is that you have fun within the midst of all the crazies.

I think it really comes down to the fact that dating sites are aimed towards the general everyday-public.

The irony in the whole thing is, that those people who are singles are most likely aren't like the general everyday public, save those who were divorced and broke up, but eventually those people will quickly get into another relationship and usually not from the internet dating site. So they are usually short-timed temporary people, meaning, they might signed up in desperation or trying to expand the possibilities, but they usually don't hang around long as singles.
Those people are usually very compatible with anyone or have a threshold big enough to accept virtually anyone.

What you will end up sticking around for longer (forever?) on dating sites, are the people, who are essentially a minority but they got a much tighter and a much more defined requirements and most of the time it's not something they set up or trying to aim high, but coming from their personality. Indeed they have something unique or very different from the rest, since they just can't fit in for one reason or another, they rather stay single than get entangled in a relationship with someone, whom they didn't like from the start.

Once I did a survey on one of those sites just to see what's the fuzz about, it turns out, that I represent about the 3% of the population, meaning, out of the 100, there are only 3, who would be compatible with me.

I believe they are called misfits................

That's a hate word. I am not a misfit.

I was going to say "unique", but we can go with yours

The hell your not. Like I am one to talk. You know I'm kidding bro.....

Hail the misfits of the world!

Join the boat!

Oh don't mention E-Harmony. They mismatched me all the time and then the clincher was an abusive alcoholic. Almost had my neck broken as he hit me from behind so won't go back there for anything. I would rather stay single for the rest of my life.