do you remember when someone made you feel special in any sort of way? i guess i mean unique from any other relationship that you so desire now?....

mine would be.. from an ex bf.. the only one i was with that gave me a desire to have latter on in a relationship <that i have never found again>. it was back in 1997.... <hence ive had 3 relationships since then> a 4 yr , a 6 yr and a short lived 1 yr.
But i remember.. <he owned a business> and I ran it lol.. but going to his clients houses.. and them so glad to finally meet me.. that they heard so much about me.. I remember him feeling "proud" that he was with me... I guess all my life that is the only time I ever had that..though we had issues that I had to leave him over , I seen him grow so much.. and was really good to his next gf.. that after 2 yrs I talked to him again and because of her.. I liked her.. and we became friends again all of us.. He was a big support to me in my life after that.. her as well..thought about it tonight and it brought a tear to my eyes... God rest his soul.. may he rest in peace! For he taught me alot about life.. and about me.. and what I do deserve..

so whats your memories? that stick with you?

also i think in todays society that most people think of only the negative in past relationships which to me is idiotic.. if it was all negative why the hell were u so stupid to be with them? or put up with it...... come on here! there had to be some positive outta it... learn from the positive .. as well dont forget the negative.. but dont ponder on it......and all of life is a lesson... its a learning process till you die...

there is a guy that i met about 12yrs ago. i had just got out of a relationship about a yr before... fred had a great sense of humor hes a joker he would have a raindeer ontop of his car and would wear a santa clause suit. he made me feel like a real person. i still have a few letter he had sent me, i still have a little valentine teddy bear he gave me one yr and a tape with love songs... we probably would had still been together if i had only answer the dang phone to the ex bf. for he was calling to let me know he was on the way back. i didnt answer the phone because i was going over to freds on new yrs and i came home the next day i was only home maybe 15min and he pop right back in my life i was cornered and didnt know how to tell the ex. so we got back together for a few months and by this time fred went forward.. the last time i saw him was about 6yrs ago and the last time i talked to him was just the other day.. we have been in contact on the phone and email the last few months and were seeing how things will go but right now he looking for work so that his number one priorty now.. we have talked about the past and my mistake and he said that we all learn the hard way. as for the old bf well i have no clu where hes at. and i dont care.

we all make mistakes... i know i sure have!.. so i hear that your memory and desire is to have someone make you laugh again?

sure why not.. he might be a geek but he has a great heart and soul and he made me feel i was someone

for that is a desire of mine though .. ive had that a few times so its not so unique to me... but it is a must lol... i guess to me that isnt as much meaning to me.. though it holds much meaning. i guess we all desire what we havent had much of and got a good taste of it?

nothing wrong with geeks lol.... it all depends on if their geek style has similar interests to yours! a geek to one is not a geek to others as well...

The relationship I'm in now...he makes me feel very special by his words and actions. Never have I felt so adored...
and he's a geek, I love it!

Yes there was one time in particular that someone made me feel special, I don't wanna get your thread moved so I'll just say it was at the rest stop just before you go over Raton Pass headed south. Sitting down in the drivers seat, she gave me "spagetti legs" (never felt anything like it before or since) but the best thing about it all was when I looked at her and seen the huge smile and the brightness in her eyes knowing that she'd just rocked my world like no other. That made me feel special and will never forget that moment....

lol i kinda like the so called geek type myself.. i guess lol! the kind that do stuff to make me laugh... and like the kind with a brain.. some call those geeks i dont!

lol!!!!!!!!! any answer is good here! so yours is sexual... and feeling that you were the best? i dig that answer as well because mine was different doesnt mean that isnt important as well... acually kinda tired of ones who are all about themselves in that dept! but again that has happened more than once lol... so it doesnt stick out for me... and not the most important to me either... but i sure know what u are talking about!

She speaks, I listen, I speak...she listens.

I'm pretty simple, really.

nice!!! a listener who wants the same in return!!! yes pretty simple if u ask me! yea not many out there like that... men or women.... that is pretty special in my eyes!

I do but I can't remember it!

a few, but personal

Oh gawd no, I've never felt like I was the"best" or anything close, just was a moment I'll never forget. Sometimes the look in someone elses eyes when in response to your reaction is more than words can describe, was priceless!

but im thinking something in a relationship should make you feel "special" or tops... to make you feel wanted and appreciated...

I don't think that people only remember the negatives, it's just what they talk about. Especially shortly after the relationship ends. It is part of coping, no one wants to sit around and remember all the things an ex did that made them feel good so you talk bad about them to buddies to help "get over it". Once you are over it then people can remember the good times without wanting the person back.

On topic, my ex wife and I dated in high school, broke up and went our separate ways for a few years. One day when I got out of a long relationship, she came and found me. She said that I had always been the best guy she had. That she had compared every relationship she had in the years between to the one she had with me and that none of them compared. That made me feel special. We were married for eight years and to this day she still says that I am the best guy she ever met. No one has ever treated her with the love, respect, and acceptance that I showed.

i felt i was wanted and deffently felt i was apprechated when i was around fred..

for im pretty sure fred knew me from the inside out
for many just took a guess.. fred was able to reach in

We weren't dating...but one day My best friend and I were having a mutual bad day...and he just looked at me and said:

"So lets get away from this crap, go to a desert island, and build a fort."

ah...good memories.