(Okay, granted what I will tell you is the bare min.... but I mainly want to see what other people's reaction would be the the follow situation.)



You are laying down taking a nap. Your boyfriend says his friends in the apartment complex are having a bbq and he wants to go and that he'll keep an eye on your son. 'Okay, no problem'

So, at some point, your son comes home taddling that the adults (all adults (mostly younger) are at the bbq) are calling him names. (son is 7 years old and very sensitive). So you call your boyfriend and he says that they were calling him scooby-doo and shaggy and those aren't bad names.

(I don't recall what my response was, but remember telling my son I would take care of it).

So, I put on my shoes and grab my keys and start walking out the door towards the courtyard where they are bbq'ing. (I was a little groggy from napping, but not pissed or upset).


I first see my son (closer to me) fixing the chain on his bike. So I go over there first. I don't even think that I had time to say anything to my son; when the group bbq'ing started laughing.... I look up and my boyfriend is practically running and skipping (looking totally goofy, like a little boy that got caught doing something wrong) from the group bbq'ing while talking on the phone.

(This isn't the first time that when around these people that he has been rude or done something 'funny').



SO..... what would you do? Go back home, try to find where he was going to, ????

What's your reaction? mad, angry, confused, happy, tickled pink?

Well, number one thing is Bullying is NOT acceptable in any form and should have been dealt with (by your boyfriend) right away! I cant judge him and his actions at the BBQ cause I wasnt there, but it sounds a tad bit immature on his part!!!If it was me, Id confront him about what happened and get some straight answers from him!!! Just my opinion, but I woudnt like the whole senerio of what happened!!!

I would tell the boyfriend, "I am raising a child. I refuse to date one, act like a grown raising a child or leave." The next time he did it, I would ask him to leave.

Take away his porn collection. He will come groveling to you and he will grow a sac.

Hummmmm coming from a single mom that raised 2 kids one boy & one girl. My daughter was very sensitive when it came to what others said to her.

I assure you that if at any time anyone I was dating would have let anyone belittle one of my kids they would have been out the door without a second thought. Yes my kids were my world and their safety and well being was my first thought before anyone I dated.

But then what amazes me is the guys I dated treated my kids with ultimate respect and would have never let anyone call them names even joking around..... sorry makes me wonder about the guy your with and his maturity and his compassion towards your son.....

Just think it is something that should be discussed between you two and he does need to understand how you feel and either he complies with it or see ya..........

I may be missing the point, but I suppose I would start with asking him? And definitely not leave my child with him in the future if I thought he wasnt caring for him,,,

Doesn't matter what we think, what do you think.

Listen to YOUR instincts, is he a JERK.

What are you keeping him around for??

You asked, JMHO.

Exactly, bullying is simply not acceptable. What kind of boyfriend is that? living in the highschool years of treat others like crap? Basicly his words are exactly how id do it, confront and figure this stuff out.

he was just showing off in front of his buddies...sounds like a childish bunch to me, which in that case, I'd be soo turned off...
ummm he definitely wouldn't get any that night...that's for sure.

Ditto and I've missed you Sea.

My reaction???

You probably won't like it much....

But...first of all...your son is going to need a thicker skin if he's gonna survive in this world. Shaggy and Scooby Doo?? Please.

Second of all....go ahead and let the boyfriend know that you were not amused with the behavior.

I have found that teasing can be a way to engage someone, to interact, that when you are being teased, they like you, are interested in you, how you will respond.......unless it's mean and malicious.


I don't think 'Scooby-Doo' and Shaggy are mean.


But do discuss it with the boyfriend too.

Sounds like your male friend has the mental age of a 11 year old. If you keep him around and if he does something like that again, talk to him as such. He'll get very embarrassed and the depth of his immaturity will hopefully hit him about how he is acting. I certainly wouldn't want a full grown man that immature being responsible for any child.