This is great advice regardless of finding someone to date.

Despite your weight vs. confidence debate, your overall health is the most important factor to consider.

I am a fitness trainer, and I see clients of all shapes and sizes. My goal is not to transform every 'body' into a media image of perfection – but to change their lifestyle for the better which will extend their lifetime. The concept is as individual as each person I train.

Not everyone is physically predisposed to being thin. If a person tends to carry more weight – and it’s not excessive to obesity – they can manage healthy organ, blood, lung and heart function successfully. It’s better for a person to embrace their body and maintain STABLE good health rather than perpetually gaining and losing weight. Yo-yo diets and exercise plans can be more dangerous than obesity itself; yo-yo habits can increase the chances of heart attack, diabetes, joints pain, arthritis, and thyroid conditions.

In reference to your topic, I’m sure there are many people that do subscribe to your theory of “image dating”. Also take into account that some people, while still possibly being mismatched, seek partners with similar lifestyles. A fit person may not have as much in common with someone who is not interested in exercise or healthy eating. For example, if one person is a homebody that eats fast food, or has poor eating habits, and has sedentary hobbies (reading, video games, etc) – they might not be a good match for someone who is constantly active and believes in a controlled dietary existence. Neither person is right or wrong – they are simply not a potential match or of mutual attraction.

I wish you well in your personal growth stage. Start with yourself first, and then you will find meeting a great girl will come without effort.

J has the right idea. Exercising a bit more and losing a little weight will help you put physically as well as boost your confidence.

can't agree more...hate to start a gender war, but I think many women are more " worried about what others think..." than men...reason being...many women are much smarter than men and pick up on things much faster..because of this, they are much more sensitive to changes and will react accordingly... as opposed to guys - much slower to change, or dense

roko

p.s. -- they will take all kinds of abuse if there is perceived value...even though the perceived value is not in tangent with actual value...and many cases it is hugely distorted..

Lots of good advice in this topic.

Ever hear the expression "Handsome is as handsome does"?

If you act like a confident, good looking guy, who has a life, you will be perceived as one, people will treat you differently.