I'm fortunate to be able to forgive very easily because I'm able
to put myself in the position of others and to see all
perspectives of a situation. I believe everyone deserves a
second chance. That does not mean it doesn't hurt.
Where are you on the forgiveness meter? Are you able to forgive
and let go or do you want revenge, wish bad upon one who you feel
has screwed your over...hold a grudge?

Depends on the situation that I am trying to forgive. I do hold a grudge on some things..........

I forgive easily most of the time

Holding a grudge is one thing..all have done that at one time or another. Wishing something bad to happen to someone is completely different. I know people who actually want revenge so badly and can't do it..so they wish something bad on another. I can't wrap my mind around ever wishing a bad thing to happen to anyone..
just thinking that way has got to be some bad juju karma.

Nah I would never wish harm to anything or anyone. Doesn't mean I will forgive your azz if you screw me..........

I'll always forgive..doesn't mean I'll put myself in a position to be screwed again though..matter of fact, I'll be sure I don't.

I usually only hold them for a short time like...oh, 2-3 years!! Wish them harm sometimes but don't really mean it!!! I'm just now working on letting my last grudge go!!

I have learned to forgive but does not mean I forget.....As far as wishing bad on others never ... I have no ill feelings with others within the past... you learn to forgive and move on ...... holding grudges does nothing but keep all those past hurts within. It is best to let go and find the peace within....

If God can forgive me, why would I not forgive others?

I dont hold grudges, I start each day new and learn from my mistakes and those of others instead of keeping the memories for negative purposes,,like grudges

I forgive fairly easily, I dont forget though

I wholeheartedly agree with you. Holding a grudge isn't hurting the other person it hurts yourself. But, just as soon as I think I've let it all go then something will come up in conversation, etc & I'm all "tissy" again!!!

There is nothing worse than a tissy woman.......

wise words Kristi..holding a grudge to long and wishing bad on others is very damaging spiritually ...and what it can do physically can be dangerous.. that's the kind of negative feelings that contribute to stress..which can lead to dis-ease. So I have heard..

....and more wise words, from the wiseman. You all are sooo smart!!!

I never hold a grudge. If I am going to be angry or disappointed enough to eliminate a person from my life then I get over it and move on with life. I wish them well - but I choose not to be friends with them.

My tolerance for BS, drama, and people who don’t take responsibility – or who repeat the same actions without remorse – is almost zero.

I honestly can’t think of a situation wherein I forgave someone for a major issue.

Petty stuff is annoying, like being late, flaking, getting drunk and puking on my shoes ( ) but I consider that unconditional love for my friends.

If someone lies, cheats, or steals from me then I close that door in a hearbeat and I don't forgive or forget. They shouldn't have been an azzzz in the first place. They are probably forgiven by too many people which is why they keep acting like an azzzz. If they learn consequences they MIGHT change.

well said melody...anytime I have had to clean house..so to speak,
it is done with well wishes and love. I put up with much from those I care about..if someone runs me off they are in serious need of love and well wishes.

Petty stuff can be annoying , yes. It's the things like that, that remind me how fortunate I am to have raised 3 boys..ya get over the petty stuff pretty easy after that.

Thanks Lori!

Don't sweat the petty stuff; pet the sweaty stuff! and

wow Melody..the way you say that, it's kinda hot!

It's hard to get over when someone wrongs you. Especially if you trusted them.

Eventually I find that it just takes too much energy to hold onto that grudge and you have to just let it go.

yeah..eventually ya gotta get sick and tired of being sick and tired over it...I would think