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All we see of someone at any moment is a snapshot of their life at that particular moment. It does not show us the millions of other moments... times of poverty, riches, joy, despair, ups and downs, moments of glory, elation, loss, pain, happiness, kindness, or the millions of decisions and choices that have led up to that one moment we happen to see. Do we judge based on that particular moment we are seeing? Should we judge at all based on one moment? Are you able to put yourself in another's shoes..so to speak. Or simply go by what your seeing at that moment? But trust me here when I say this,,MANY OTHERS DO VIEW YOU and ALL THAT,,at that time,,and IF you fail to have something they feel is a MUST,,,,SEE-YA..wink, As I have recieved THAT... |
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No sorry necessary. It's not about making a judgment..it's about letting the judgment roll off your mind. Yes, we all make a split second judgments, were wired that way. But we can choose to let it go or focus on it. We can keep looking and keep our thought on the initial judgment..or we can see it, think and let it go. I'm referring to a first impression judgment call. Oh look at how fat she is..then we let it go or keep looking at her and finding all the fat places. Thinking about what she could do to lose some weight, assuming she is lazy, assuming she has bad eating habits. Or we look, think my god she needs to lose weight...then let the thought go. I'm just using that as an example. Kendra..you said you were taught differently... to focus in, roll it around, concentrate, decide if it's important to you...I get that. But when it comes to a first impression about another...why? Why do you need to focus in, roll it around, concentrate... I guess that's the part I don't get. Why so much thought would go into a judgment on a person via their firstimpression.. particularly a stranger. Regarding the comments on a fat person, I don't judge that. It doesn't even register as a first impression. It's the personality, aura, feel of a person that I'm judging, not their physical attributes. Later on, to an extent, yes, I am picking that up. I don't care what the person does unless they turn around and make a deal out of it. If a person goes on about how poor they look, how fat they are, how weak they are, or how sick they are, and doesn't really do anything to better themselves, then yes, it will come through and affect things. First impressions are pretty immediate. I'm not taking 20 minutes to analyze it, it's doing it immediately. Ever read the book Dune? There's a quote there, used by the Bene Gesserit, that I hold close, and it can be used for many things. "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." The impression rolls through, and I look at it and see what there is to see. There have been a few times when stuff has clouded my impressions, either my own fault for not trusting myself or being to eager/forward/emotional, or the other person, intentionally or not. It's happened to all of us. However, I truly don't want to deal with a creep, and have no problem judging based on that, and then walking away from said creep. I won't endanger myself just because it might be rude to judge. |
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Beachfarmer
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"People seem not to see their opinion of the world is also a confession of character" Ralph Waldo Emerson Thanks Picklehead sweeeeet 
by proxy twice (?) removed.....but YES....sweeeet |
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Edited out some excess No sorry necessary. It's not about making a judgment..it's about letting the judgment roll off your mind. Yes, we all make a split second judgments, were wired that way. But we can choose to let it go or focus on it. We can keep looking and keep our thought on the initial judgment..or we can see it, think and let it go. I'm referring to a first impression judgment call. Oh look at how fat she is..then we let it go or keep looking at her and finding all the fat places. Thinking about what she could do to lose some weight, assuming she is lazy, assuming she has bad eating habits. Or we look, think my god she needs to lose weight...then let the thought go. I'm just using that as an example. Kendra..you said you were taught differently... to focus in, roll it around, concentrate, decide if it's important to you...I get that. But when it comes to a first impression about another...why? Why do you need to focus in, roll it around, concentrate... I guess that's the part I don't get. Why so much thought would go into a judgment on a person via their firstimpression.. particularly a stranger. Regarding the comments on a fat person, I don't judge that. It doesn't even register as a first impression. It's the personality, aura, feel of a person that I'm judging, not their physical attributes. Later on, to an extent, yes, I am picking that up. I don't care what the person does unless they turn around and make a deal out of it. If a person goes on about how poor they look, how fat they are, how weak they are, or how sick they are, and doesn't really do anything to better themselves, then yes, it will come through and affect things. First impressions are pretty immediate. I'm not taking 20 minutes to analyze it, it's doing it immediately. Ever read the book Dune? There's a quote there, used by the Bene Gesserit, that I hold close, and it can be used for many things. "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." The impression rolls through, and I look at it and see what there is to see. There have been a few times when stuff has clouded my impressions, either my own fault for not trusting myself or being to eager/forward/emotional, or the other person, intentionally or not. It's happened to all of us. However, I truly don't want to deal with a creep, and have no problem judging based on that, and then walking away from said creep. I won't endanger myself just because it might be rude to judge. I was using "fat" as an example as to what some do judge by. As most do judge by the physical appearance. I hear ya, I do the same as far as picking up energy...I need about 2 minutes. I feel them, you feel them..or see the aura. And knowing if one is just plain old bad news. Not everyone is able to feel anothers intentions..,so most will judge on looks, attitude, what is said. Reading one is an entirely different ball game....so to speak. |
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Edited out some excess No sorry necessary. It's not about making a judgment..it's about letting the judgment roll off your mind. Yes, we all make a split second judgments, were wired that way. But we can choose to let it go or focus on it. We can keep looking and keep our thought on the initial judgment..or we can see it, think and let it go. I'm referring to a first impression judgment call. Oh look at how fat she is..then we let it go or keep looking at her and finding all the fat places. Thinking about what she could do to lose some weight, assuming she is lazy, assuming she has bad eating habits. Or we look, think my god she needs to lose weight...then let the thought go. I'm just using that as an example. Kendra..you said you were taught differently... to focus in, roll it around, concentrate, decide if it's important to you...I get that. But when it comes to a first impression about another...why? Why do you need to focus in, roll it around, concentrate... I guess that's the part I don't get. Why so much thought would go into a judgment on a person via their firstimpression.. particularly a stranger. Regarding the comments on a fat person, I don't judge that. It doesn't even register as a first impression. It's the personality, aura, feel of a person that I'm judging, not their physical attributes. Later on, to an extent, yes, I am picking that up. I don't care what the person does unless they turn around and make a deal out of it. If a person goes on about how poor they look, how fat they are, how weak they are, or how sick they are, and doesn't really do anything to better themselves, then yes, it will come through and affect things. First impressions are pretty immediate. I'm not taking 20 minutes to analyze it, it's doing it immediately. Ever read the book Dune? There's a quote there, used by the Bene Gesserit, that I hold close, and it can be used for many things. "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." The impression rolls through, and I look at it and see what there is to see. There have been a few times when stuff has clouded my impressions, either my own fault for not trusting myself or being to eager/forward/emotional, or the other person, intentionally or not. It's happened to all of us. However, I truly don't want to deal with a creep, and have no problem judging based on that, and then walking away from said creep. I won't endanger myself just because it might be rude to judge. I was using "fat" as an example as to what some do judge by. As most do judge by the physical appearance. I hear ya, I do the same as far as picking up energy...I need about 2 minutes. I feel them, you feel them..or see the aura. And knowing if one is just plain old bad news. Not everyone is able to feel anothers intentions..,so most will judge on looks, attitude, what is said. Reading one is an entirely different ball game....so to speak.  I know you were using it as an example. And I do agree with you on most folks.
It may just be semantics. I say judging, and you're using reading. For me they can alternate, but essentially mean the same thing. One is getting a feel for a person, animal, etc. and making a decision based on that feel. "Judging" comes across as more negative, especially when used in a religious context, despite everyone (most) doing it. |
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Kendra..alright I'm tracking with ya now. Yep, I refer to it as "reading" someone..reading them like a book, is what I call it. I guess I don't refer to it as a judgment because I'm not intentionally reading them anyway..it just happens when I'm near them. And the word judgment has a bit of a negative under tone to me. Not that it always is..must have something to do with growing up in a strict Christian household...
Anyway..right on, I get ya, I get it. And on that note I'm off to bathe and get a little sleep before the sun comes up. Good night 
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Sleep well!
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