I have only been here a week but I am starting to have some deep revelations about the the virtual world around us. I have been portraying the "Nice guy" and "gentlemen" because.... well that is just simply who I am. But I have discovered that most ladies arent really looking for a nice guy, most just want a decent dude, or at least thats what they would settle for. We, the men in the world, have created this, and believe it or not chivalry dies at our hands, not the hands of that beautiful creature we call woman. So I ask you ladies would you be happy just finding a decent dude who is just trying his best to do the next right thing?

ahh..yeah,i got the same wakeup call too...lol!

Maybe its time more of us woke up to what it takes to be a man these days. At least I dont feel so alone anymore. Heres to all the guys out there just trying to do good. We suck at it, but were trying!!!

It isn't easy out there....Women are a labyrinth, my friend.

"Complicated" is the word I would use, only because I suck at mazes.
So tell me brotherly sage, how goes the wooing on your part? Are there really any kind, compassionate, loving ladies left? Or have all the good ones been scooped up into the clouds. Or is it possible you are not seeking the same thing I am?

I was married for 10yrs...I have 2 teenagers whom I have custody of...I don't believe I'll find what I'm looking for online...not into the distance thing but loving ladies are real...somewhere

What labyrinth? I am as easy to read as a large print text in a kindergarden primer.

What do a lot of women want? Based on my perspective, we want a partner that is honest, that doesn't try to pull macho crap and over rule us with their controll issues, ( like opening a door, my arms are not broke. ) phony egos ( are you truly crushed that I opened that door? )and other BS. I guess the same could be said for some women out there also. I don't want to leave anyone out or be biased. We want a person to SHARE our lives with and their lives with us with nothing less than the truth, the little things that happens day to day. The flat tire, the goofs at work and trials of life. All along with the joys that a simple day reading the paper and listening to music snuggled in each others arms, can bring. We want to be able to respect our partner and in return have him respect us. (See, sharing.)

I do not know if this is true of younger women, but I think at my age it mostly holds true.

Why are you telling everyone you suck at trying to do good?

I'm also completely nude while posting...just thought the ladies should know

Maybe its a guy thing, and maybe its just a me thing, but I think most guys out there are really trying to do the next right thing. Ladies to..... (oops) anyway most of us just arent very good at trying. We try and try everyday, and many of our attempts fail. That leads me to believe we just suck at trying. A quick example before I go. I have a dozen things to do today which is why I got up early. I am really trying to get them all done because I know its my responsibility to get them done, but instead Im sitting here almost ready hanging out with you. Im trying to get out of the house, I just suck at it... Gotta go, have a great day everyone!!!!!

Maybe its a guy thing, and maybe its just a me thing, but I think most guys out there are really trying to do the next right thing. Ladies too..... (oops) anyway most of us just arent very good at trying. We try and try everyday, and many of our attempts fail. That leads me to believe we just suck at trying. A quick example before I go. I have a dozen things to do today which is why I got up early. I am really trying to get them all done because I know its my responsibility to get them done, but instead Im sitting here almost ready hanging out with you. Im trying to get out of the house, I just suck at it... Gotta go, have a great day everyone!!!!!

How did that happen??? Bye

I guess I just think it's strange you're speaking for men, rather than just yourself. I know men who do the right thing all the time.

I guess I fail to see what the problem is, you describe yourself as a gentleman because you open doors for women, right? Okay, as several women, myself included, have pointed out, we are fully capable of opening our own doors. The only time I think it'd be nice if someone (man, woman, kid, whoever) opened a door for someone else is if you happen to be carrying a heavy package and your hands are full, or if you're elderly and/or disabled and can't open it yourself. In other words, it's not necessary or required. I guess it's a nice gesture, but not necessary. The only time I think "chivalry" should come into play is when a man does something that's actually necessary for a woman, ie. something she can't do for herself, and I have no idea what that would be.

So what else does a "nice guy/gentleman" do besides that? I'm not being snarky, I'm totally curious about this.

Why would he only point the finger at himself? He's a "nice guy" afterall...back to point A.

So many guys (on here at least) are not really honest! Be straight up about who you are and what you are looking for! I for one am very straight forward about who i am and what I am looking for! No guess work with me! If you don't quite get it with me,,,,then ask! I am more than happy to fill you in then it's all good!

I know ‘decent’ means well-mannered, polite and honest but most people improperly use the word ‘decent’ to mean second-rate, average or mediocre.

For example, “How was that restaurant?” ... “Oh, it was decent but not the best.”

I don’t want a ‘decent’ man in that term.

In answer to your question: I don’t settle for anything.

Someone might be right for me or I may never find anyone right for me. I just date, have fun, and see where life takes me.

Don't try so hard for the wrong person. Just be a nice person (guy or not) and you will attract a person that is right for you.

Do we HAVE to be or NEED to be paired? That is so antiquated.

Ok Im going to try to address each issue I have missed out on today. But first I would like to thank everyone for participating in my thread. I have really enjoyed this. Thank you for making my experience here a very good one... It has been a real eye opener....

If it appeared that I spoke for all the men of the world I apologize, I never meant to speak for anyone but me. I am simply trying to work through all this mix of different views each of us has, and trying to find an approach where I will be more understanding of how others around me feel.