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| Topic: Is dating just about finding that one and only? | |
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Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? it depends,, on who you ask and their definition I think of a DATE (when they ask would you like to do out on a date)with the traditional one-on-one romantic undertones(dinner, movies, home cooked meal) as a potential romantic prelude Ok, so the question is if it's one on one type date does that mean it necessarily has the romantic undertones? I think of a date( when they say 'it's a date') with some common activity such as sports or bowling or meeting with a group of others as just a time to meet friends It seems for a lot of people this is a key issue. If it's one person it's romantic if it's more it's not. Half my "dates" ie: one on one, dinner, movies etc, are with gay women where obviously there's no future relationship possible. There may be lots of sexual undertones (my experience gay women love to tease the straight guy, or at least they do me LOL), but it's still obviously going to be friends only. If I gave up those I really wouldn't have any dates at all and that would be boring. I much prefer one on one time rather than groups though I go out with groups as well. right,, it all depends upon the person. I would think those outings with people we ALREADY know have already defined relationship,,,those outings we go on to get to know people though are the types that I consider date material if they are one on one. Obviously, If I know someone is not attracted to me upfront, than i wouldnt consider it a date. Ok but not all of my dates are without attraction. I've gone out with ex's as well, plenty of attraction there, I just know we don't make it as BF/GF. Still not a date? |
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It's all about the good food & sex!!
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Edited by
Phuque2
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Thu 04/15/10 06:22 AM
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But not in that order
 
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a guy the other day on here that i talk to.. asked me.. so do you turn down dates? then said he would force his self to go to keep in practice.. for me.. id never want to force myself.. so yes i do turn them down... would i go out with someone i wasnt interested in as a partner? yes.. only if i was sure they weren't thinking anything else if they gave me any inkling that they were interested in more and i wasn't noooo i would not go.. but there has to be interest in at least being friends for me to go.. i don't believe in misleading someone just to get a dinner or coffee or have them take me somewhere.. This is basically how I feel as well. 
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Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? Very intriguing question. I will pretend you are asking me. I would say that given my experience observing other people, that dating can mean a whole host of other things, if not a pursuit of a relationship some are good some are bad. Some will do it for fun/partying. Some will do it to cope with the desire to not be alone or bored. Some will do it because they like the idea of using each other to get what they want. Some will do it because they need a friend. Some will do it because they love and desire the attention and it boosts their own self importance. Some will do it because there's that one chance in a million that this one person they go on a date with, just might turn out to be, the One. 
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Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? Very intriguing question. I will pretend you are asking me. I would say that given my experience observing other people, that dating can mean a whole host of other things, if not a pursuit of a relationship some are good some are bad. Some will do it for fun/partying. Some will do it to cope with the desire to not be alone or bored. Some will do it because they like the idea of using each other to get what they want. Some will do it because they need a friend. Some will do it because they love and desire the attention and it boosts their own self importance. Some will do it because there's that one chance in a million that this one person they go on a date with, just might turn out to be, the One.
I wouldn't trade that for anything
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I don't start dating someone with the assumption that they're going to be "the one" or anything like that. But, dating is a way of finding that out about the person. Dating can also be a lot of fun. And hopefully there's lots of good sex involved
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I don't start dating someone with the assumption that they're going to be "the one" or anything like that. But, dating is a way of finding that out about the person. Dating can also be a lot of fun. And hopefully there's lots of good sex involved .
I think the real question emerging here is, would you still date someone if you were already pretty confident the were not "the one", but they were still a fun person to be around. |
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I guess it would depend on the situation.
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Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? Very intriguing question. I will pretend you are asking me. Well I was asking everyone, but really you just said what you've seen other people do, you never answered what you would or wouldn't do ... if you were still dating that is.
I would say that given my experience observing other people, that dating can mean a whole host of other things, if not a pursuit of a relationship some are good some are bad. Some will do it for fun/partying. Some will do it to cope with the desire to not be alone or bored. Some will do it because they like the idea of using each other to get what they want. Some will do it because they need a friend. Some will do it because they love and desire the attention and it boosts their own self importance. Some will do it because there's that one chance in a million that this one person they go on a date with, just might turn out to be, the One.
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Myself if I dated someone and found out that there was no chemistry as far as a relationship. But in fact enjoy going out with them as friends then that is what it would end up being not dating anymore but just a friendship....
Well that is as long as I found out in the beginning for I'm not one to stay buddy buddy with ex-lovers. Some do if it works for them then fine but not for me.....I stay within talking terms with them but not to the point of hanging out with them on a day to day bases. 
Therefore it no longer becomes dating but instead just a good friend to go places with and enjoy each others company.... 
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Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? Very intriguing question. I will pretend you are asking me. Well I was asking everyone, but really you just said what you've seen other people do, you never answered what you would or wouldn't do ... if you were still dating that is.
I would say that given my experience observing other people, that dating can mean a whole host of other things, if not a pursuit of a relationship some are good some are bad. Some will do it for fun/partying. Some will do it to cope with the desire to not be alone or bored. Some will do it because they like the idea of using each other to get what they want. Some will do it because they need a friend. Some will do it because they love and desire the attention and it boosts their own self importance. Some will do it because there's that one chance in a million that this one person they go on a date with, just might turn out to be, the One.
Aww, okay, Davey. As I'm sure you are aware right now. I found the love of my life, Erica. Miss Utah, some of you may know her as RedSoxFan1. I have been on here since September, with my expectations wide open since then. If it was just a dinner date, a movie, a night on the town, the bar, or just for me and a beautiful lady to spend time with, I would have been cool with that. But then "she" walked into my life, an angel, one who I have been praying for all this time, and I found her, and she found me, and we are now inseparable. It's so good to be in love again. It's so good to feel joy again, I am so very happy, and I hope you, my brother will too one day soon.
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ghost reading
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Myself if I dated someone and found out that there was no chemistry as far as a relationship. But in fact enjoy going out with them as friends then that is what it would end up being not dating anymore but just a friendship.... Well that is as long as I found out in the beginning for I'm not one to stay buddy buddy with ex-lovers. Some do if it works for them then fine but not for me.....I stay within talking terms with them but not to the point of hanging out with them on a day to day bases.
Therefore it no longer becomes dating but instead just a good friend to go places with and enjoy each others company....
Really trying to get away from the semantics of what a date is and get to what people will do in terms of activities with persons who are not potential relationships. For me, leaving out sex, there really isn't type of thing I won't do, even if it's someone I don't see having a relationship. That's the real question to me. There a couple things I'm trying to learn about on how people feel to avoid problems. I have had women think I was interested in a relationship simply because I asked them to do something that was a typical date thing, like dinner or a movie. Assuming I'm not interested, I try make it clear if it doesn't already seem clear that, that's not my interest. But the mistake still happens simply because for some it seems that type of outing is automatically "a date" for building a relationship. I want to get a sense at what point I have to start worrying about that miss assumption. And of course there is the simple curiosity of it all in what people think. 
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ghost reading Read all you like. Love to hear your take too though. |
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well i got nothing .... sorry
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No reason to be sorry
You don't date? |
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here goes dating is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing each others suitability for potential relationship .. however dating can also be enjoyed as a part of an already relationship
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here goes dating is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing each others suitability for potential relationship .. however dating can also be enjoyed as a part of an already relationship More kind of a definition of dating, but thanks
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here goes dating is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing each others suitability for potential relationship .. however dating can also be enjoyed as a part of an already relationship More kind of a definition of dating, but thanks
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