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Me and my GF just recently broke up and this is our second time dateing..... we broke up the first time because how i acted.... so i changed and acted diffrent... we broke up because how we were acting and she said we were breaking up because she wanted me to act like i did the first time... and so you join a dating site? lol i knew this one had a form people talk and help eachother on so thats why i joined agin |
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Me and my GF just recently broke up and this is our second time dateing..... we broke up the first time because how i acted.... so i changed and acted diffrent... we broke up because how we were acting and she said we were breaking up because she wanted me to act like i did the first time... Dude. Question. What do YOU want? I mean, you did all this for her, and it still did not work out. Like Melody put it, you shouldn't alter who you are for anyone. Yeah, you can make compromises and try to change some things (for the betterment of the relationship). But when she wants you to change and you do, and then she wants you to go back to how you were....that screams "control freak" to me. And, when I mentioned that you can make compromises, it is normally both parties that do it. Not just one, which (from what you stated) seems to be that she made you become something else while she stayed the same. I personally agree with others in that it is time to move on. |
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Me and my GF just recently broke up and this is our second time dateing..... we broke up the first time because how i acted.... so i changed and acted diffrent... we broke up because how we were acting and she said we were breaking up because she wanted me to act like i did the first time... So she basically likes the idea of you, but not you. You should act the way you are and do things the way you feel natural and if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't really like you in the first place. That's the time when you point towards the door and say, "This is me, and if you don't like it, you are free to walk away". If she would really love you, she wouldn't and if she walks away, she never liked you in the first place. |
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Me and my GF just recently broke up and this is our second time dateing..... we broke up the first time because how i acted.... so i changed and acted diffrent... we broke up because how we were acting and she said we were breaking up because she wanted me to act like i did the first time... Here's the deal. I am guessing this girl of yours is your age. Honestly, she doesn't know what she wants, she's wayy too young to really know. So unless your actions were morally wrong (cheating, lying etc.) you should not change your personality for ANYONE! Be yourself, and if she cannot handle that, there are plenty of other girls that will love you for who you are without you having to put on a show. |
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Me and my GF just recently broke up and this is our second time dateing..... we broke up the first time because how i acted.... so i changed and acted diffrent... we broke up because how we were acting and she said we were breaking up because she wanted me to act like i did the first time... So she basically likes the idea of you, but not you. You should act the way you are and do things the way you feel natural and if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't really like you in the first place. That's the time when you point towards the door and say, "This is me, and if you don't like it, you are free to walk away". If she would really love you, she wouldn't and if she walks away, she never liked you in the first place. aww i love ya! very well said! 
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There's trying and then there's letting her walk all over you. Sounds like you've made some changes for her whereas she would probably not do the same for you. Relationships only work if equal amounts of effort are put forth by both sides. Don't do all the work to make her happy, just means shes a spoiled little princess. every relationship i've been in i've allways put more effort in it and i just feel like i'm the biggest screw up in the world after.... We have all been there man. Trust me, you just have not found the one yet. You will know you found her when she is absolutely in love with the REAL you, and it will feel natural. You won't feel like your trying hard or anything. You will just be you, and it will feel great. But sorry about the break up, I have been in your shoes many times. |
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Best thing to do is move on you will finally find one that wants you because of who you are and want try to mold you into what they think you should be.....
 
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This is the BIG reason why it's more important to be REAL in a relationship, than to be PLEASING.
If you try to change your behavior to try to make a long-term relationship work, you MUST get it through your head that YOU HAVE TO BE THAT WAY FOREVER. So don't do anything uncomfortable, or really different from your true self. Small things, like toilet set positioning, no big deal. Your experience with this woman is telling in this: the reason she wants you to be the way you were before isn't because she LIKED that way better, it's because YOU WERE REAL then. Now you are faking it. Fake "nice" is always worse than REAL "mildly annoying." |
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If someone loves you, it's "you" they love. it shldn't be the idea of who you could be. If your happy with who you are, then move on and find someone who loves you for you
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