What, exactly...is wrong with friends? You're acting like it is some type of biological weapon or something. ****, friends are good...builds a good relationship, or you can date someone and never actually get to know them, probably for the sex...but I wouldn't know much about that.

Friendship-Relationship-Lasts Longer.

Agreed.

So when I signed up here my profile said I was looking for someone to date, to do things with,'casual dating' was the term I used. Women would tell me they thought I was looking for casual sex.

When my profile said I weighed 190 lbs. and that "if you weigh as much as I do or more, this ain't going to work" I received e-mails from women of size telling me I was being closed minded.

I have been told that if I used the term "activity partner" in the 'looking for' section it was implied I was looking for sex.

When my profile stated my age preferences, older women would contact me, telling me how I was missing out. Funny how younger gals never bothered to tell me this.

I am in a relationship right now, so the 'looking for friendship' is the only option that makes sense to me.

The potential for mis-communication is huge online. For effective communication to take place the receiver of the message must understand it correctly, that the message they heard is the message you sent.

The only person who knows what they are looking for is the individual them self, and sometimes they don't even know.

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I see absolutely nothing wrong with looking for new friends here. That's most of what we're going to find anyway, by being involved in the forums. I'm always open to new friends. Who knows what may come from that. If nothing other than friendship happens, that's fine with me.

I can understand the reasons you guys mentioned here so far. They are logical.

But its like stuff, you know...when the looking is "friendship" but their profile details talk about looking for true love and that special someone and all that crazy ****. Are they bipolar or what?

You meet someone great whose profile blew you away with promises. You write, and they responded enthusiastically talking about going into relationships and stuff. You went out together and asked for another date (yes it was a date! I even paid for both). And then they go like, "Didn't you READ my profile I was looking for friendship, I am not interested in you or anyone else. I want friends only. My ex was so much cuter than you."

WTH. Why did you lead me on?

Well, now you're talking about something else entirely, I refer to those people as liars, and possibly players. Or, maybe she changed her mind about wanting to date you, and then used her profile as an excuse because she was too cowardly to say anything else. My profile says looking for friends, and there's no mention of love on it, because that's not why I'm here. I'm always careful to never mention anything on my profile that might be taken the wrong way, that's why I think it's stupid for someone to assume I might be looking for dates, when it's quite clear that I am not. Once a man emailed me repeatedly in an effort to "get to know me" and then became upset when I told him I wasn't looking for anything other than friendship- online friendship, I wasn't looking to meet him in person. I'm not coy in my profile, I'm not coy and flirtatious on the forums, if I flirt with a man it's because I'm into him, not because it's fun; that's a waste of time to me, and it's misleading.

Perhaps you should have asked the person if they considered your outing to be a date, and if they didn't, they should have paid their own way. My friends don't pay for me when we go out. It's all about communication and asking questions, that's why I advised not trying to date those who are looking for friends, so you don't have that problem. Sure, things change, sure people change their minds, but sometimes you have stubborn people who don't want to date you or anyone else and all you do is end up with hurt feelings and confusion, which could have been sooo easily avoided. I don't know about you, but I don't like pain, I try to avoid it whenever possible, but that's just me, and I appear to be in the great minority here.

Ditto, heck it has to start somewhere and I don't prefer it to start off a roll in the sack

Next time, ask up front what they're looking for if they've only stated friendship.

Perhaps the other person didn't think it was a date? Paying for it doesn't make a date. Be upfront about what you're looking for in the very beginning and hopefully they will be as well.

I change mine back and forth all the time. Right now it says I'm looking for a relationship, but I know that isn't gonna happen. Now, if one of the options was "looking for someone to do laundry and bring Pepsi," I'd click on that one and just leave it up forever.

glad I read the posts in here because I was about to say the same thing

maybe they want to find their true love with a friendship foundation.

as far as the example though....yes that is misleading, but don't assume that all are that way. No bueno

when i had relationship on, it attracted the crazies so i put it ti friendship, which at this point is all im capable of anyhow

ALL good relationships start with a friendship foundation. The difference is in their mindset. If someone says they are here for friends, I just pass them by, no use trying to date someone with a glass ceiling. I take dating slow, BUT it's still dating, still based in friendship... and always with the intention of eventually dating.

If someone is looking to eventually date but labels their profile as 'friends' - then they are shooting themselves in the foot.

I have that I am here for friends, but if someone comes along that sparks an interest, then I'm not opposed to dating or a relationship.

Same here.

Interesting.....hhhmmmmm

My thoughts exactly

Nope!I just continuously send smiley faces until I'm served a restraining order.But hey!that's just me.