I know attraction plays a big part in anyone being interesred in someone. I know everyone has there own preference,but what i'm wondering about and this is for both Men/Women in todays world.



Does long hair compare to short hair make a difference.


Does tattooes, compare to none make a difference


Does piercings compare to none make a difference


If you have to guess, what do you think?

A person's general appearance is automaticly taken into consideration. Takes effort to look thru first impressions.

There are things that initially attract me to a person, but as far as relationships go, or even just casual dates, I would have to say it doesn't matter to me. I give people a chance. I would never date someone who was smokin' hot and I had nothing in common with or I couldn't have a conversation with them.
I would take intelligence over looks any day.

yes and no. IF appearance is all one has to go on,,then yes , it will matter. I dont particularly care for nor would I 'choose' a long haired man or a tattooed or pierced man.

However, I am also very attracted to certain character traits so it is POSSIBLE that if I were working or studying or living closely with someone who had ANY of the above traits,, yet were sweepingly charming or talented or good hearted,, my attraction to WHO they were and how they carry themself could overwhelm my particular distaste for how they choose to look(although I dont think it is likely I would physically be able to be close to a body that looked like a pin cushion with excessive piercings or one that looked like a wall of graffiti with excessive tattooes.

Ok, I understand what you were saying

lets just say I had short hair and you were attracted to me other then my apprences. Now mind you. You seen me on this site for some time now. You might know a little bit about me from sharing. So you take the time in getting to know me, but I don't let you know everything. You only see what you see in the pic's. Now lets say you want to go out on a date. We do and as time goes on you become more interested in me and want to spend more time with me and go on more dates. Then out of the blue, you see one tattoo I have on my arm, latter you end up kissing me. You find out I have a pierced tongue. By the way, It's true, I do have a tattoo and a pierced tongue No one knows this.


So knowing that you didn't know this. Would you have a change of
heart? Or is it to the extent of what someone might have?

Yes!appearance most certainly does matter w/ taking into account that first impressions are strong & lasting ones.Preference is really the operative word here as I am certain that we all have them.I most certainly do.To answer your Q's above 1)I'd much prefer long hair.2)No more than a few tattoos done in good taste & or w/ symbolic meaning behind them.3)No more than a few piercings for I have no desire to date or have a LTR w/a pin cushion.lol;)If this potential date was dishonest w/ me beforehand then I'll be taking exit stage left w/a quickness.I'll close by saying that her looks & appearance gather my attention however it's her heart & mind that will capture me completely.Beauty is transparent & fades over the course of time however initial dates & LTR's are 2 different subjects entirely.Godspeed!Cy

Nope, once I like someone I like them,,that is why appearance mostly matters when it is ALL one has to go on. In your scenario, if I got to know you first the only thing that would change my mind about the attraction is ,for lack of a better description, some physical traits that actually turned me OFF(like the EXCESSIVE tattoes or piercings thing).

I think it varies person to person. Some girls look good with tats, some don't, et al.

Nothing ment by this but a lot of people say that they would take intelligence over looks.


I have a hard time believing this when you have been on dating sites as long as I have and see this a lot and come to find out that the person that is saying this, has been on the same site as long as I have and is still single. Not saying you, just sharing here. Where does the fine line between looks and intelligence come in.

The main reason I brought this up. There are (A lot) of intelligent men on this site.

I agree , intelligence is attractive. I think when given a choice of thousands of people, preferences are naturally going to come into play.

In one on one situations or real life situations,,we kind of have to gauge people as we meet them. men who live at the gym are not particularly appealing, for example, but a man who generally takes care of himself is. On a dating site, we can be VERY specific about that in order to narrow our search. In real life, we just have to get to know people to find out how they spend their time.

This it true.

for me it's all in tast, and to the extent of things.

Appearance helps you catch someone's eye. However, it does not make for a strong and loving relationship. That hinges on personality. If the appearance factor is really big in a relationship... I'd say it needs time to grow still.
Not that you shouldn't like how a person looks... just realize that is something to compliment and enjoy, and not the reason for love.
All that aside, yes... each of the factors you mentioned does have an impact on my first perception of a person, and I do find that certain traits in appearance are more likely to spark my interest. I'm just saying that I'd never marry a woman just because she looked good!

I like men who are intelligent AND attractive, no either or. If you're ugly and smart, no thanks. If you're hot and stupid, no thanks. I like the total package.

Your apperance is the first impresion anyone gets of you

then afterwards people get to know you and you see if you click or not

I've met beautiful on the outside. Horrible on the inside

I've met what society considers not so beautiful on the outside but so great on the inside that to me they were truly beautiful people

I pretty much know what kind of outward apperance I'm attracted to

I need to get to know their inside!

I have to admit first impression has more of a bearing then most are willing to admit.

Tattoos do not bother me but get real if someone showed up the first time and was covered with them then it would cause me to back off if on their face I'm gone. That is if it was a date...

Same with piercings ears fine but now they show up and have more holes then I can phantom or count within a sec I'm gone........

I don't care how intelligent they are that is not for me.

Now just as a friend then no problem does that sound like I'm wishy washy ohhh well at least I'm honest just not someone I would want to date.

Same if they show up and smelled like they have not had a bath in 6 months would I date them hell no and well most likely would not hang around them as a friend unless they agreed to clean up.

First impression can be a kicker.

Just for and example we had a guy that worked for us long hair, tattoo's and would never look at you eye to eye. He kind of shrunk into the crowd he was a great worker just no one paid much attention to him being there. Well we had a change of employees the main foreman was fired the only one that really knew the work well was the one that never got noticed but he was good as what he did. Funny the boss talked to him about the job and he did mention he would have to take more of a stand and be able to talk to others more and present his self to the company. The guy on his own cut his hair. Unbelievable how much of a difference that made he had cataracts on one eye real bad the company owner actually found someone to do the surgery and had his eye fixed come to find out that is why he would not look anyone eye to eye he was embarrassed by the way his eye looked. It did not take long before this guy was taken completely different then he was prior. But just goes to show that first impressions are more of a factor then most want to admit.....

long haired, tattoo'd biker men in leather instantly attract me!!!!!!!!!!!

Sadly, I know of some people who would find him undeniably sexy.....