I was with a girl who one nite when i wasnt there had her friend sleep with her in her bed. when i found out i freaked out and bounced on her. she called me for two weeks trying to get me back insisting that it was no big deal and that she has a big bed with a lot of room. i told her she was a slut and he could have slept on the couch in the living room!!!!!!!!!!.
Did i over react? cause i dont think i did.
how would you feel if your girl was in her bed with another dude that you didnt know? i think she met him the day she slept with him.

I would think that sleeping IN someone is a deal breaker for most if it's not their SO.

Guess it show how much she is "YOUR GIRL".

What are you so worked up about, you aren't married/ or did you buy her?

Holler at her sister/ Or best friends.Make things interesting

bounced on her?
were you her boyfriend?

Strictly my opinion ,,,but,,,

If she and friend were still dressed, you may have over reacted although she definitely made a bad decision. It is possible to share a bed and not have it be sexual,, it would totally depend upon whether the people are clothed or unclothed. A gentleman probably wouldnt share a ladies bed with her(unless he is gay maybe) to avoid any temptation. None of this means either person was a 'slut' though.

Ask her how she would feel if the situation was reversed,,and see if it is easier for her to understand how you feel. If you dont trust her though, whatever the reason, its best to move on.

ha ha ha ha your old

Like..that was the best comeback ever!!

Well, were they naked?

Also if they are friends that means they have some kind of history. It very well could be fully platonic. I have female friends that are totally platonic. Also while they were in bed how much space was between them? None? A foot? Even then that is still only the part of the picture you see. You don't see it all. Now if they were going at it and not sleeping then I would say "BUSTED" but frankly sleeping on a couch is not all it is cracked up to be.

I know guys that when they travel sleep in the same bed to save money. They are FAR from gay but I would not sleep in the same bed as another man unless there were some unusual circumstances afoot like it was WAY past freezing butt assed cold and there was no other way to survive.

People are just tooo F@%&ed up over sex and fidelity!

Unless caught in the act two people in bed means nothing unless they are naked and you can smell the aftermath and believe me unless you use a LOT of air freshener you can tell when two people have been doing the wiggly. Sweat, pheromones, the dew of down below, messed up bed, I mean come on, there is more to life than sex!

It is just that good sex is fun and a little harder to find than mom and dad ever had the courage to explain to us when we were younger. Just don't try looking too much into anything sight unseen. Jealousy is just screwed up and not good for anyone. If you got to question someone in a relationships fidelity with you you need to move on for the piece of mind for everyone. It means you are in the wrong place in your head for a friendship or a deeper relationship. Some people thrive on that kind of drama though.

What if your friend really was getting all Frita Callow behind the scenes on everyone? Gonna end a friendship over her life choices too?

The first time a friend of mine admitted to me he was gay after I was out of high school was a little shocking but we were just friends. It explained why he acted so girley all the time but he was not a bad person by any stretch of the imagination. I could not see tossing aside a good friendship for his choices in life. As long as they don't drag you into something that you feel is wrong then there is nothing wrong.

I know this is nothing like what you are facing but there may be realities behind the scenes like what if she was sleeping in the same bed as her brother (cloths on)? Now if they were naked all I can say is this...

CALL JERRY SPRINGER IMMEDIATELY!



Remember, Jerry Springer Loves You!










Wow. In deeper thinking this is a can of worms for you!



Hope the best for ya!

For hell's sake of course it's wrong!

Where are the morals in the world?

Please do not insult our members! You asked for feedback; act like an adult.

Dude, not cool. You started the thread. He posted his perspective, you can agree or not but attacking him personally was bogus.

No insult taken. Proves to me WHY this happened.
Seems to me, so many of the younger generation forgot the manners, society expects. Then they wonder why things happen.

YES, I AM OLDER & PROUD of it.

ummmm, first, that would be "you're old" not "your old"

second, being old, he has prolly had more women (and beauties too) than you're likely to get in the next twenty years

and all the stuff you're thinking about doing with your life in the next twenty or so years? he already did


sorry to take offense but that just seems to be a common comeback from a bunch of kids who have really never been anywhere or done anything (and yeah 30 is a kid)

if a person can't respect their elders it seems like they should respect their betters

I would be very upset if my boyfriend had a female friend sleep in his bed with him and I would imagine he'd feel the same if I had a male friend sleep in my bed.

hahahaha papersmile would rip me to pieces and I wouldnt blame her

Well, THAT all depends on if YOU just had a one night stand with her YOUR SELF?
And the TERM bounced on her???WTF????Like TACKLED HER?

If YOU felt you were through with her because of her actions, why
even waste time with any names to be called to her,,
Hell for THAT MATTER,,why even ASK a post question as to YOUR already DONE DEAL HERE?

After calling her a slut,, (taking it for granted YOU feel that way OF HER) WHY would you NOW flip-flop to go back?

So, whats-done, is done, and your words and her actions will ALWAYS remain in BOTH of your heads!!

IF YOU made THIS CALL, who our WE to say your right or wrong?

All of us don't have to live with YOUR CHOICE ALREADY MADE?.

And you have poor writing skills. So, what's your point?

Dude, she was was messing with you. No woman lets some dude snore and breath hot arse breath on the back of her neck unless she is into him. Its good you bounced...if you would have stayed who knows what kind of penicillin shot necessary slumber party that could have turned into.