Valentines day so this might be fitting......

Have you ever wanted to just follow your heart even though your brain is saying slooooooooow down?

Say you meet someone and there are a hundred reasons why you shouldn't go there.....yet there is a chemistry that cannot be denied and it's powerful enough to push a normally skeptical individual to let go and just feel and enjoy the time, however short it may be.

Is that moment in time worth it? Do you take the chance or walk away?

Like you said, some get cought up in the moment and I have to, but if I can see things a head of time. I would walk away because I have enough things going on in my life now. Why add to it.

At my age I think I would go for it!!

I think there needs to be a balance between heart and mind.

Funny how you bring this up because I feel like I'm in that boat. It's either I'm going to regret not following my heart...or regret not following my head. It's the question of..."Is there something better for me...or is this the best there is?" I think I will walk from the situation...but I may find myself walking right back. Oh mercy!

I always analyze a relationship before getting into. Tried following my heart and ended up being attacked by an abusive man. So will never again follow my heart; lesson learned.

I try to balance between thinking with either of my two heads

only problem is when I use either one it sucks all the blood out of the other and renders it useless

ive followed both my head and my heart...have some regrets both ways but wouldnt change it for the world. i do tend to lean more toward following my heart. what doesnt kill us makes us stronger

Uh huh, appreciate the answers thus far.

I have a couple memories running around where I followed my heart and had some times I will never forget. Those memories kind of keep you going for the long haul I think. However, the disappointment when it ends can be detrimental if not handled right. I guess if you decide to go forward, the key is to remember what you set yourself up for and be mature about the possible outcomes.

Listen to your head because your heart is just a stupid muscle.

Really aren't we doing the same thing as emotions come from the brain and not your actual heart.

Well true.....but you get the idea of the whole thread.

Same could be said for lots of people's heads....

I over think everything. So, I personally, would go with the head before heart.

Followed my heart and got kicked in my head!!!

Does love or lust or "chemistry" really have anything to do with intellect? So many of us spout on about finding someone compatible and we go down our lists of requirements, marking off this person and that person because they don't have "it"....yet in the end, if there is no spark, what is even the point?

Would you take a chance on someone if the spark between you was too strong to deny, for no real reason other than it was just there? Something was pulling you to that person.....call it lust, chemistry, attraction........whatever, but it was undeniably there. Or would you walk away because they didn't fit your idea of what the perfect woman was for you?

I'm an emotional thinker...my decisions are based on a meditation process where information comes from my third chakra.....it's not coming from my head or my heart, it's more intuitive... has never led me in the wrong direction, now that I've leaned to trust it.

It does for me. I've been with so many fluffball airheads that now I've got to see some brain function up front before I even think about letting myself consider becoming interested. Sure, it's counterintuitive, because I can be attracted to someone by a "look," but that attraction vanishes once the shoe-size-IQ rears its ugly toe. I just don't want to deal with that anymore.



Valid question, but this is a sort of chicken-and-egg scenario. Do we not like them because there's no spark, or is there no spark because there's nothing about them we like? I don't know.



I think I would have to deal with it on a case-by-case basis. My gut instinct is "better safe than sorry," which would lean towards not getting involved at all. But then it's been a very long time since I felt even a minimal attraction to anybody at all, so it's hard for me to predict how I would react if that were somehow to happen.

Neither...

I have to follow my instincts...