wait...are you telling me I can't do that in real life??? I've been doing it wrong all this time

I actually went to my local hang out (hole in the wall bar) in my flannel PJ pants and t shirt People called me and told me to come hang out. I told them I was relaxing. They kept on...so I came as I was

I'm not putting gays and lesbians into a section of the population that is "outside the normal", Fear. I happen to be a lesbian, and I was asking about lesbians because I don't go looking around dating sites for men. Therefore I have no idea whether the vast majority on those sites are attractive or not. When you have whole sites that are made up by almost entirely attractive people with a few less than attractive ones, you do get a little suspicious.


Furthermore, what's up with those weird guys who label themselves as "woman seeking woman" when they clearly are NOT a transgender person? Do they just think they'll get hits from bi girls, that they will somehow magically seduce lesbians, or do you think that they just forgot to change the drop down menu?

Mysteries of the internet...

most of the time it's just a matter of clicking on the wrong option. Many do that without realizing it

You'd think someone would warn them though.

"So, does all that hair on your face make you man, or are you just upside down?"

If I notice them, then I try to send an email.

Lots of men on the internet are just stupid. I had on my profile that I didn't answer emails. So they send me emails. Now my profile is blank, if you're too stupid to read it, might as well not take the time to write it down.

I think he was referring to her profile.

Which is pretty silly, given that it has no relevance to the topic at hand. Don't you just hate it when you start a topic and then people add to it without really answering your questions?

Or better yet, when you ask an innocent or light-hearted question, and you get attacked for it. Those are the worst ones.

Welcome to mingle, tadpole. That's just how the forums are.

The forums on other sites are way worse. I stay here where it's safe and warm.

No doubt, I used to go on a site where they had no mods at all. It was a regular sleaze fest. I prefer mingle hands down.

I watched in a politics thread where they kept calling a lesbian woman a dyke and all kinds of horrible names. I left right after that. It was horrible.

Amen! Well said

Hey, the internet is serious business. I'm convinced that if you dare to post on a forum, you're asking for people to ***** at you. The internet is a melting pot of smut, mod bashing, fellow user bashing, and llama porn.

That whole "I CAN CALL U NAMES COS U CAN'T SEE ME" mentality is rife on the internet, so people feel a lot better saying that kind of stuff to each other without worrying they are going to get a boot to the head. If you have a view that doesn't conform with what the majority say (even if you are just asking a question about something) then you can expect at least one person go nuts like you just said you are planning to rape babies and unfurl a giant poster of it on the top of that tower in Dubai before blowing it up with a penis-shaped potato wedge called Gary.

Very well said!

I was just pointing out how you seem to think this only really occurs to the lesbian/gay community. In a way you were putting them into their own classification, again, 'outside the norm.' The way it was sounding was that you had to be gay or lesbian to feel the way you feel when that simply isn't the case. So maybe 'outside the norm' was the wrong wording, perhaps 'upon a pedestal' is a bit more clear?

I don't think it happens only to the lesbian community. It's just that being a lesbian when it comes to dating, it's ridiculous to think that I'd go looking for male profiles and straight women to see what they look like. You have to put it into context, Fear.

I was asking fellow LESBIANS about what they think of certain issues. Not to say that no others can post here; it's just that it's mainly geared towards that aspect of dating because I don't involve myself with the opposite sex and therefore is of no interest to me.

Whoopsie, I'm not a lesbian. So I can't post here. Sorree.....

Never said that you couldn't. Just that the topic was obviously geared towards lesbian dating, and not gay males, transgenders, or heterosexual couples.

I'm interested in the viewpoint of all-regardless of sexual orientation. My sexual orientation usually doesn't come up in conversation with any of my friends-many gay, lesbian or bi or evolving or questioning-I value and learn from all the opinions.